Whether due to a relationship's physical or emotional obstacles, sometimes it's necessary to go on the infamous "break." Yesterday a source revealed that actors Amanda Seyfried and Dominic Cooper "have been on and off for a while – and right now they're taking a break. But they're great friends and could still get back together." Stars, they're just like us!
Here are five reasons to test out a break and one reason to just break up.
- You need to focus on other priorities. Be it school, your job, or a sick family member, sometimes we can't give a relationship our all. It's OK to take a step back until you get things straight.
- Long distance. If you live far away, you might prefer taking a break over having the good aspects of the relationship spoiled by the frustrating downsides of distance. While Amanda Seyfried had recently discussed how she makes her LDR work with Skype, sometimes it's necessary to put the relationship on hold until you can spend more time in the same physical place.
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- You got together really young. If you've been together since you were relatively young (say, high school), you might consider a break to experience adult life on your own.
- You and your partner have the same expectations. Avoid the Ross and Rachel situation. Make sure you both agree about how long the break will last and what's allowed. Regular communication? Hooking up with other people?
- You're OK with the possibility of not getting back together. Don't use a break as an ultimatum with the hopes that your partner will change in ways he cannot. If it's your partner who suggests taking a break when you really want all or nothing, it might be healthier to break up for real and get back together if it's meant to be.
And one reason to just break up:
You want to end the relationship, but you're afraid of being alone. If you know that the relationship has irreconcilable problems but worry about what it will be like without a mate, do yourself a favor and start the process of accepting your single status. You'll see it's not so bad!
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If they're on a break I guess Lindsay can make her move.
1I've never really understood the point of a break. Under almost all circumstances it doesn't make sense to me. to respond to the firs three "reasons": if you need to focus on other priorities, and your relationship isn't one of them, you shouldn't be in one...if you're far away and don't want to do long distance then break up, keep in contact, and do your own thing, either that or just be together and work on it...if you got together young and you don't want to be together anymore, don't be
the last 2 "reasons" aren't really reasons, they are just things you should know if you do take a break
and finally, no it's not that bad being single, and you should just start your journey without dragging things on...it will make it way easier in the end
2If I am in love with a man, it's such a strong emotion I couldn't see school or distance making me even think of a break. Because, at the end of the day, even with those obstacles, love conquers all, as they say.
A break kinda sounds like an excuse one might use when the love is gone, and it's hard to admit.
Perhaps passion can be reignited, but as far as I see it, if I can easily see myself living life and being happy, or even happier without the guy I'm with, so much I want a 'break', it's time to break up! I'd rather just rip the band aid and move on to a more fulfilling relationship.
3I agree with Natalie Love! I am in a LDR, in school, and I STILL make it work with my man. I kindof am of the school of thought that if you love someone enough, you will do what it takes to make it work. But every situation and relationship is unique, so I can see how for some people this might be an appropriate move.
4Such good points. I think too often people take a break when they should really just break up, but there are some cases — especially the getting together very young — where taking a break has worked very well for couples I know
5I actually have to disagree with the posters here. As a man, I can honestly say that if a "break" is going to break the both of you up for good..then you were never meant to be anyway. Personally, I could never handle long distance. Actually, being in love would make it worse
I feel that if you're truly in love, but for whatever reason you decide to separate for a while...it shouldn't matter in the long run. Because if that's your true love, you will end up back together. A break can do some couples good, especially young couples who want to experience their young years before tying the knot
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