Public Marriage Proposal Rejected

Public Marriage Proposal Rejected — What Would You Do?

July 24, 2009

There's always a risk involved in a marriage proposal — she (or he) could say no! But a person heightens that risk when he decides on a public proposal. Yesterday on Australian national television, a man surprised his girlfriend of three years and proposed to her on stage. Sweet huh? Not really, considering that she ran off stage crying! Maybe this is why men are as afraid of proposing marriage as they are of sharks.

This clip, if it wasn't staged, is so heartbreaking! What would you do if you were the girlfriend? Say yes and dump him later (and in private), or turn him down in front of everyone?

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2 years 51 weeks

i would just say "wow, I cant believe this! Let me get back to you on that darling." It may seem like a good idea to publicly confess your love, but to her, it feels like coercion if she isn't ready yet. If she says, no- then she looks like the bad guy, if she says yes, then she is going to have to explain it to her "fiance'" and any friends or family who saw the proposal what happened. If you say yes, and later on say no you are going back on your word and this may bring guilt to yourself. Let me think on it is the only acceptable way to get out of these proposals. The thing is, that most woman who are not prepared to say, "let me think on it" are going to be under pressure and wont be able to think too rationally. I personally would be pretty fumed if I were to be proposed to publicly, even if I say yes I still would probably confront the my beau on it later on on how it made me feel uncomfortable.

Sofia Soubrette 3 years 42 weeks

WAHHH! That's horrible! And....mysteriously funny, but probably just because it wasn't me! I had a friend who was proposed to at Disneyworld. Her boyfriend arranged it so that all of the characters were there at Sleeping Beauty's castle - it was a big to-do. Well, she couldn't marry him and she had to say no - and she said it was the hardest thing to do, but she couldn't lie by saying yes just because he had gone to so much trouble. It would have never worked, and he thought by going to such extremes would somehow make what was wrong right. It was certainly sad for everyone. I hope I'm never in that situation!

dikke kus 3 years 42 weeks

I feel sorry for the guy. But public proposals can be shocking and embarrassing for a woman. She was caught off guard and felt overwhelmed. With camera and lights and people staring she sort of had a panic attack and ran. I think she may have even felt angry and betrayed it wasn't a private personal moment.

Symphonee 3 years 42 weeks

Cry and hug. That's what I would do. Cry, hug, and pull him off stage. It allows me to say no in private but spare his feelings publicly

thinker 3 years 42 weeks

It was a faked stunt http://quest-news.whereilive.com.au/lifestyle/story/footyshow-proposal-a-hoax/

cakeshinigami 3 years 42 weeks

It was his fault for telling her to "say yes" when she clearly wasn't going to.

xxstardust 3 years 42 weeks

I can't imagine saying no to my partner at all, honestly. I'd prefer something more private than a gameshow - but if he asked, I'd say yes, regardless of location! After 3 years, they must have discussed marriage/proposal *somewhere* down the line, one would think. I've been with my boyfriend almost 2, and we've talked about it. He knows the ground rules - I don't care if it's in public, but please dear god don't do it in a group of family members/friends. Strangers I'll never see again but family and friends I'd get bashful, for something so special - and besides, then I wouldn't get the fun of TELLING everyone!

dani17731 3 years 42 weeks

I would just say yes. I mean you've been together for three years and I can't see being a couple that long and never discussing marriage. I know this was staged, but if I were in that situation I just couldn't say no in front of all those people.

Sassi1508 3 years 42 weeks

poor guy..but it did feel a bit staged btw the show isn't a game show its like a panel style show but with lame ass jokes..it focuses on aussie rules

totygoliguez 3 years 43 weeks

It does seems stage. If that ever happen to me I would say yes,and then tell him that he shouldn't have done that, that I felted pressure to say yes and that I'm not sure, I'll be pretty mad if a guy does that to me to be honest with you.

JessRose 3 years 43 weeks

Oh my god I'm so glad to hear that was staged.

3 years 43 weeks

Just letting you know that it has come out in Australia that it was indeed staged. It was meant to be a birthday joke for the host who had turned 50 during the week. Really lame joke.

Marci 3 years 43 weeks

Veka, it struck me as staged, too.

RoaringSilence 3 years 43 weeks

I think it is a bad idea in general to propose to someone out of the blue. You have to bring the topic up at least a little bit to figure out if you're goign to be happy together for the rest of your lives. If you sense then that your partner isn't on the same page.. don't propose at all. I don't see the appeal of public proposals in general, but I guess they are alright if you explicitly talked to your partner about getting married. That's the ONLY time. This sure was an awkward moment, but if you put it in perspective, at least the woman didn't get married cause she didn't know how to say no.

marcied23 3 years 43 weeks

yeah, the whole thing looked staged, but if it was real, i would've said we should talk off camera, b/c just saying yes if you don't mean it would have tons of family and friends congratulating you on your engagement and that would take up to much time.

Lori Gragg 3 years 43 weeks

that was sad....but if they've been together for 3 yrs then she should be willing to make that commentment, i think it would be sweet for your partner to want to show you off to the world and how much he loves you, she humilated herself if she would have had a reason behind it if she said no it would be differ but just to run away like that was ridiculace, you would think that after 3 yrs she would be thrilled to get married!

kiwitwist 3 years 43 weeks

I think it looked staged too.. But I would probably say yes and deal with it later. I would rather not be humilated on TV.

Veka 3 years 43 weeks

Wow it looks totally staged to me... but I wouldn't run off the stage... That's messed up! Poor guy.

staple salad 3 years 43 weeks

I'd like to be proposed to in public (I think it adds some special, and I know I like watching proposals be accepted when people do them publicly), however, only if the guy doing the proposing KNEW that I'd say yes. I wouldn't want an out-of-the-blue proposal. But I wouldn't say no and run away like that... I'd say yes, but ask if we could discuss things in public. Or say no in a tasteful manner that wouldn't ad insult to injury... probably something like "I love you with all my heart, however, I'm just not ready for a big commitment like that".

POPSUGAR Beauty 3 years 43 weeks

Oh, how heartbreaking — for *both* of them. I hope they're able to discuss this in a way that is healthy for them. FWIW, I would DIE if this happened to me. Especially because I wouldn't want to have my proposal be on a game show.

McSquish 3 years 43 weeks

I think you *really* need to know your partner. I would LOVE a public marriage proposal, the larger the better. My best amiga just got proposed to, but she would have been MORTIFIED if he did it in public w/ strangers around, but instead, he did it with friends and family around, which suits her perfectly. I mean, private is cool with me, but HUGE and ELABORATE, is how I'd prefer mine. Now, if my guy is not a big gesture kind of dude, well that's ok too =) But seriously, the partner REALLY needs to know what is acceptable and not. (I didn't watch the video cuz I wouldn't be able to handle it.) As much as I feel bad for the guy, it makes me wonder how well he *really* knows her =(

WeTheLiving 3 years 43 weeks

I would probably say yes and then break it off in private. I wouldn't want to publicly humiliate a guy I care about. That's scarring.

nicklover 3 years 43 weeks

My gosh that poor guy! The girl could have been a little bit nicer about it!

Chrstne 3 years 43 weeks

You should never ask that question if you don't know the answer. However, if I was one of those people who got proposed to out of the blue like this, I would probably say something flirty or something along the lines of: "Aw, that's sweet. Buuut, I'm gonna have to say no. However, if you asked me later, in private..." -- so it's adding humor and making a nice, tactful getaway.

PrincessLtrain 3 years 43 weeks

My heart just broke for this guy...

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