Polygamy With Multiple Husbands

Alternative Polygamy: Two Husbands

January 29, 2010

This post comes from user Venus1 in the group Sex 101 in our TrèsSugar Community. Feel free to weigh in the comments!

There has been a fair bit in the news of late about polygamy. The accepted norm always seems to be a man having two or more wives. Let's turn the tables here for a minute. How would you feel about having two husbands? Personally I'd hate it but it would be interesting to hear you comments/views.

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pimalinda 1 year

i would be in heaven once again. one of the most memorable times in my life was sharing my bed with my 2 lovers both male we all 3 got along famously for 2 or 3 months we shared great times due to other pressing obligations we went our separate ways. and thru time began our individual romances. however the time we spent together was golden i just wish it would have lasted longer.

pimalinda 1 year

MsPiggiesWorth 1 year

I would never even think about having 2 husbands! i'm not married but I think one is enough for me :)

SilverPhoenyx 1 year

I have two husbands. Sometimes, they do not get along, but usually they do. I have been married to one of them for nearly five years, and the other for four months after a year long courtship. Unlike the FLDS polygymists, two is the max for polyandry - and that suits me just fine. I love them both and consider this to be a lifelong connection.

2 years

Oh and BTW.....@ PeachPerry......WTF???

2 years

@ Madisynn and Anonymous, you ladies are fascinating. I have always had a secret affinity with the idea of polyandry but its not something that is socially accepted and I am sure is not easy to pull off. But somehow you Ladies are doin the damn thing! Now thats some mad pimp game right there. This kind of relationship may not be for everyone but I know that I could totally handle it. I am a whole lot of woman and I am sure I could keep both my men satisfied and vice versa. I wish I could pick your brains and ask you aaalll about it. Its soooo intriguing!

2 years

So I'm not married to two men but I do live with my husband and boyfriend. I have a child with each of them, they are great fathers! And awesome supportive husbands...Netime of the day I can sit and talk to each of them about nething! It's not about the sex threes no wild 3 way stuff going on, actually we never even sleep in the same bed. We hardly ever argue and every argument ends quick and quietly. We never have to find a babysitter because one of us is always home with the children. Jealousy is never an issue we treat each other with equal respect. The only problem we have is other people understanding our situation. What is there to lose we have a wonderful family and 3 incomes under one roof is way better than two these days...With the economy the way it is and two young children under the age of 5 it's hard to put food on the table. This life style makes that so much easier, and gives us peace of mind. My men work together self employed and I work as well, not because I have to but because I want to. My money goes mostly to savings for the kids future! So what's wrong with this life style? Idk, to me it's perfect!

mikiismum 2 years

i cant say i've ever tried, but i wouldnt mind being a sister wife, or something similar, i mean, i cant see the problem with havin an extra hubby or an extra wife. grouped relationships might be the key to lowering divorce rates, you never know.....

2 years

I have two husbands...I have for awhile now... and so far so good. We have an agreement..no one goes outside of the relationship... we don't have group orgies or anything crazy like that. I simply have two husbands.. two put it in Hollywood terms.. there is no longer a need for Team Edward vs. Team Jacob. Why not have Edward and Jacob? It works for us..mind you this is after 2 previously failed marriages of me trying to be mono. .. I simply need two husbands.. this is what suits me..this is what enables me not to cheat and to be satisfied.. How long will it last? time will tell.. but for a lifetime is our intention

peachperry 3 years

Christian Wedlock. QUESTION: Can a woman have more than two husbands? ANSWER: No, a woman cannot have more than two living husbands. A man has no choice, as he must be in wedlock with one wife. But a woman has three choices. Firstly, no wedlock with a husband. Secondly, wedlock with one husband. Or thirdly, wedlock with two husbands. That’s it, there are no further choices for a woman, and there is no choice at all for a man. 1 Corinthians 7:2 King James 1611. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Yr. 1783. 10th George Prince of Wales Own Hussars. (King George III). Yr. 1898. 19th Alexandra Princess of Wales Own Hussars. (Queen Victoria). Therefore two women can own a regiment of cavalry, and two men can own a regiment of cavalry. 1 Corinthians 6:16 King James 1611. What! know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. Therefore in the New Testament a man and woman lying together are one flesh, as follows: A husband and wife who lie together by carnal copulation shall be one flesh. A fornicator and fornicatress who lie together by carnal copulation shall be one flesh. A man and common courtesan or common prostitute who lie together by carnal copulation shall be one flesh. (A common prostitute is a woman who commonly offers her body for acts of lewdness for payment. An act of lewdness can never be an act of carnal copulation, as it is blasphemy to state that the Angel Gabriel and Mary committed a lewd act. The common law of england states that it is impossible for any woman to be a prostitute under any circumstances, but that a woman may continue on to be a common prostitute.). A fornicator/fornicatress and adulterer/adultress who lie together by carnal copulation shall be one flesh. An adulterer and adultress who lie together by carnal copulation shall be one flesh. Clearly the New Testament lays down that a man must be in wedlock with his own wife, and a woman must be in wedlock with her own husband. Furthermore the New Testament specifically limits the number of wives that a man can have to only one, but sets no limit to the number of husbands a woman can have. But there must be some limit for a woman, or one woman could be in wedlock with thousands of men. Rationally, if one woman can satisfy the bodily lust of one man every day, and forty men can satisfy the bodily lust of one woman every day, then is one wife for every man and forty husbands for every woman what the New Testament requires? No, because the New Testament is a document of truth, not a document of reason. Luke 1:28 King James 1611. Luke 1:31 King James 1611. Luke 1:28-35 King James 1611. In the New Testament, the angel Gabriel came in unto Mary, a virgin woman, and Mary conceived and delivered her firstborn son, Jesus, the son being God the Son, the father being God the Father. And when Mary’s womb delivered her firstborn son Jesus unto the world, then Mary was like all women delivered of a firstborn son unto the world, as a woman’s firstborn son can never belong to the mother but must belong to the Lord God. Luke 2:23 King James 1611. Exodus 13:2&12 King James 1611. And so like all women delivered of a firstborn son, Mary was no longer a virgin woman, but like all said women, Mary was a holy woman. Matthew 13:53-56 King James 1611. Mark 6:1-4 King James 1611. And husband Joseph Jacob came in unto Mary and husband Joseph Heli came in unto Mary, and Mary conceived and delivered Jesus’ brothers, James, Joses, Simon, Judas, and also Jesus’ sisters. Matthew 1:6&16 King James 1611. Luke 3:23&31 King James 1611. Joseph Jacob was the descendent of King David’s son Solomon, and Joseph Heli was the descendent of King David’s son Nathan. Genesis 38:16-18 King James 1611. “Came in unto her” means congress or carnal copulation. In the Old Testament, Judah came in unto Tamar, his daughter-in-law, and Tamar conceived and delivered twin sons. Tamar had lain in wait for Judah on the side of a far away road, and Judah had been unable to recognize Tamar because she was wearing a veil, and only common harlots wore veils. Upon first seeing this strange woman wearing a veil, Judah bargained a future payment of a kid from his flock, and therefore gave as his pledge, his personal signet ring, his personal wrist bangles, and his personal walking staff, for coming in unto her. Tamar had been in wedlock with Judah’s first son, who God had killed for being wicked. Tamar had then been in wedlock with Judah’s second son, who God had then killed when he saw the second son deliberately spill his seed on the ground during carnal copulation with Tamar. That was because if Tamar was made with child by the second son, and if such child was a baby son born of Tamar, then under the law of the Hebrews that baby son born of Tamar was the first born baby son of the dead first son, and not any baby son of the second son, despite Tamar having conceived that baby son with the second son. This meant that if a dead man had no son, but still had a widow and a brother, then the widow and the brother should ignore consanguinity, and if the brother was already in wedlock, bigamy, in order to give the dead man a first born son. (The ancient Hebrews were a people of eastern civilization who accordingly rejected the concept of demos, and therefore practiced bigamy by the males. The ancient Greeks were a people of western civilization who accordingly accepted the concept of demos, and therefore practiced either monandry or diandry by the females.). Judah had then ordered his daughter-in-law Tamar not to marry again, because Judah promised Tamar that she would marry his third son when he became old enough for wedlock. But when his third son became old enough to marry, Judah broke his promise and forbade his third son to marry Tamar. When Tamar was seen in her third month to be heavy with child, Judah was told that Tamar was with child through harlotry. Judah then summoned Tamar to him in order to be burnt to death for harlotry, although it was against the law to put a woman to death for harlotry. Tamar came and produced the signet ring, the wrist bangles, and the walking staff, and said the man who gave me these is the man by whom I am with child. Then Judah confessed to all that he had broken his promise and sinned by going back on his word that Tamar would have wedlock with his third son when his third son became of age, and then denying such wedlock to her. Six months later Tamar safely gave birth to the twin sons conceived with Judah and the midwife tied a red thread around the son’s hand which first appeared out of the womb. But then the hand was withdrawn into the womb and the second son, Pharez, without the red thread was born first, and the first son, Zarah, with the red thread was born second. Ruth 4:18-22 King James 1611. King David of Israel and Judah was descended from Pharez, and the red hand flag of the Ulstans and Scots shows the Red Hand of Zarah. The red hand is often shown on a white six pointed star, but it is not clear whether this star is a Star of Pharez (Star of David) or just a Star of Ulster. Genesis 1:27-28 King James 1611. Genesis 2:7&18-19 King James 1611. Genesis 3:20 King James 1611. The first man and first woman in this world were Adam and Eve. Adam means “man” in the hebrew tongue, and Eve means “life” in the hebrew tongue. Therefore a man is man, but a woman is life. Romans 7:4-6 King James 1611. Old Testament law dead and gives as an example that a woman can have more than one husband. 1 Timothy 3:2 King James 1611. A bishop can have only one wife, and as he must be an example to other men, a man can have only one wife. 1 Timothy 3:12 King James 1611. A deacon can have only one wife, and as he must be an example to other men, a man can have only one wife. Titus 1:6 King James 1611. An elder can have only one wife. 1 Timothy 5:4&9 King James 1611. Elders are not to provide for widows under three score years of age without children, who have only had one husband. The Estate of Marriage. Martin Luther 1522. Although Martin Luther confirmed that a woman could have two husbands, he nevertheless immediately restricted it to women who were in a marriage which had produced no children and who had then obtained permission from their first husband to take their second husband. Confusingly, Martin Luther did not make it clear as to how long a woman had to wait before taking her second husband. To sum up, the New Testament upholds the example of deacons, elders, and bishops, for men to follow. That example is one wife. The New Testament also lays down that the Old Testament no longer applies to men or women, except for the 10 Commandments, and gives as an example of this that a woman is no longer bound to have only one husband. If men must follow the example of the male Christian leader in marriage, whether bishop, deacon, or elder, then surely women must follow the example of the female Christian leader in marriage. What leader is that? The primary one in the New Testament is Mary, the Mother of Jesus, God the Son. Luke 1:15&35&41 King James 1611. Mary had carnal copulation with three men. The Angel Gabriel, Joseph Jacob, and Joseph Heli. However, Mary was only in wedlock with two men, Joseph Jacob, and Joseph Heli. Furthermore, the Angel Gabriel was not a man of this world, and he seems not to have taken a fully visible male form when he had carnal copulation with Mary as ordered by God the Father, for it appears that at some stage God the Holy Ghost came upon or entered Mary. Either this was at the moment Mary conceived or immediately afterwards. After Mary conceived, she immediately went to visit her cousin Elisabeth, who was six months with child, a son, who also had been conceived when Elisabeth had been filled by God the Holy Ghost. Accordingly it would be fully in accordance with the New Testament for a man to have one wife, and a woman to have two husbands. That the Angel Gabriel had carnal copulation with Mary is both interesting and theologically necessary, but it is not enough of an example for a woman to attempt to take a third husband in wedlock, whilst her first and second husbands still liveth. Matthew 19:11-12 King James 1611. 1 Corinthians 9:5 King James 1611. The New Testament does not give man any choice; he must have wedlock with one woman. But do bear in mind that Jesus, God the Son, was never in wedlock with any woman, despite all Jesus’ Twelve Disciples being or having been in wedlock with a woman. But the New Testament gives a woman three choices. 1st Choice: Virgin woman without wedlock. 2nd Choice: Virgin woman with one husband in wedlock without child. Virgin woman with one husband in wedlock with female child or female children. Holy woman with one husband in wedlock with firstborn male child. Holy woman with one husband in wedlock with male child or children together with female child or children. 3rd Choice: Holy woman with two husbands in wedlock with firstborn male child. Holy woman with two husbands in wedlock with male child or children together with female child or children. A number of denominations have a service for wedlock, but so far every one of them has inserted words that clearly say a woman may be in wedlock with only one man at a time. Even the State Lutheran Evangelical Church of Sweden states this, despite Martin Luther himself saying that a wife can be in wedlock with two living husbands. But what do you expect. After all, Martin Luther stated in writing that under no circumstances was anyone to call himself a “Lutheran” and under no circumstances was any church to call itself a “Lutheran Church”. So what do all northern europeans called themselves? Lutherans! Ask them what church they belong to? The Lutheran Church! A number of denominations do not have any service for wedlock, on the grounds that wedlock is not a church matter, as it is a state matter. But every such denomination has nevertheless inserted words in that denomination’s discussion of wedlock, that firmly says that a woman can only have one husband in wedlock at a time. Nowhere do any of the denominations give any explanation for their defiance of the New Testament. Of course that just might be because there is neither any justifiable explanation or excusable explanation for such defiance. Still, just looking at using only the principle of choice as a guide, all the above denominations are pointing in the right direction, even if they are not pointing down the correct path. That is, a man has no choice, he must make efforts to be in wedlock with one wife at some stage of his life here in this world. And a woman still has a choice, in that she may choose not to be in wedlock with a man in this world, or she may choose to be in wedlock with one husband at some stage of her life here in this world. This means that the principle of a woman having a choice remains intact. The defiance of both the Lord God and the New Testament by the various denominations by the removal of a woman’s option to make efforts to be in wedlock with two husbands at the same time at some stage of her life in this world, still leaves intact the principle of choice for the woman and no choice for the man. Constitution of The Spartans (Xenophon). 388 B.C. League of The Iroquois (Lewis Henry Morgan). 1851 A.D. Only two non-christian groups in the world have been known to practice New Testament wedlock. The Spartans and the Mohawk. Only monandry and diandry, or New Testament style wedlock, was lawful among the Spartans, citizens of the greatest of the greek city-states, Sparta, and history’s final saviours of Western Civilization at Thermopylae (The Hot Gates) in 480 B.C. And only monandry and diandry, or New Testament style wedlock, was lawful among the Mohawk, citizens of the greatest of the eastern woodland North American tribes, which forever blocked France’s attempt to seize New York so as to split England’s colonies in twain. Not only did spartan women routinely have two husbands at the same time, but Sparta herself always had two kings at the same time, as Sparta had two separate royal families. This dual monarchy (there are no other words to describe it) came from the Agiad Royal Family and the Eurypontid Royal Family. Much criticism of both the Spartans and the Mohawk, has been leveled by outsiders who complain of the extreme freedom of the females and the extreme militarism of the males. It must be noted that there is no record of any Spartan male, Spartan female, Mohawk male, or Mohawk female, complaining of female freedom or male militarism. Whatever your point of view on Spartan life or Mohawk life, the New Testament lays down cast-iron guidelines for wedlock. The fact that the New Testament complies with Spartan law and Mohawk law is irrelevant. Of absolutely no relevance to this discussion, the symbol of the United States of America is the bald headed eagle, which is a species that uses both monandry and diandry for conception, and where the one male or two males reside in the exactly the same nest as the one female. The one female and either the one male or two males, stay in the nest together and raise the chick together. Mark 10:7 King James 1611. Ephesians 5:31 King James 1611. Both husbands must leave their families to go and become a member of the wife’s family, or the one husband must leave his family to go and become a member of the wife’s family. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS POLYGAMY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS BIGAMY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS MAHOMETRY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS CLITORECTAS. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS MUTILATAS. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS POPERY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS PRIESTCRAFTERY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS MONKERY. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS CASTRATOS. THE NEW TESTAMENT FORBIDS MUSICOS. CAPITAL LAWES OF THE GOVERNMENT OF THE MOHAWK. 1st. If any person within this Government of The Mohawk shall by direct, exprest, impious, or presumptuous ways, deny the true God and his Attributes; he shall be put to death. 2nd. If any person within this Government of The Mohawk shall maliciously and on purpose deny that any Mohawk person may have arms for his defence suitable to his condition and as allowed by law; he shall be put to death. 3rd. If any man shall traitorously deny his Clanmother’s right and titles to her Eagle Feathers and Dominions, or shall raise arms to resist her Authority; he shall be put to death. 4th. If any man shall treacherously conspire or publiquely attempt, to invade or surprise any town or towns, fort or forts, within this Government of the Mohawk; he shall be put to death. 5th. If any man lyeth with a man or mankind as he lyeth with a woman; they shall be put to death, unless the one party were forced or under fourteen years of age, in which case he shall not be punished. 6th. If any man or woman shall lye with any beast or brute creature by carnal copulation; they shall be put to death, and the beast shall be burned. 7th. If any person shall bear false witness maliciously and on purpose to take away any person’s life; he shall be put to death. 8th. If any person shall slay, or cause another to be slain by guile or by poisoning or any such wicked conspiracy; he shall be put to death. 9th. If any person shall commit any willful murder, which is manslaughter, committed upon malice, hatred, or cruelty, not in a person’s necessary or just defence, nor by mere casualty against his will; he shall be put to death. 10th. If any person shall geld any man or mankind to take away generative power or virility; he shall be put to death. 11th. If any person shall geld any woman or womankind; he shall be put to death. 12th. If any man forcibly stealth or carrieth away any woman or womankind; he shall be put to death. 13th. If any marryed man shall lye with a woman by carnal copulation, other than his one wife; he shall be put to death. 14th. If any marryed woman shall lye with a man by carnal copulation, other than her two husbands or one husband; she shall be put to death. 15th. If any unmarryed man above twentyeight years of age and under fortytwo years of age shall maliciously and on purpose refuse wedlock for over fourteen days with any marryed woman under sixtythree years of age, said marryed woman having borne a son, or unmarryed woman under sixtythree years of age; he shall be put to death. 16th. If any person shall maliciously and on purpose deny any marryed woman wedlock with two husbands, said marryed woman having borne a son, or any unmarryed woman wedlock with one husband; he shall be put to death. 17th. If any child, above sixteen years of age, and of sufficient understanding, shall smite his Natural Mother or Lodgemother, unless thereunto provoked and foret for the self preservation from death or mayming, then at the complaint of the said Mother and Lodgemother, and not otherwise, they being sufficient witnesses thereof; that child so offending shall be put to death. 18th. If any stubborn and rebellious son, above sixteen years of age, and of sufficient understanding, shall not obey the voice of his Natural Mother or Lodgemother, and that when the said Mother or Lodgemother have chastened such son will not hearken unto them, then at the complaint of the said Mother and Lodgemother, and not otherwise, they being sufficient witnesses thereof; that son so offending shall be put to death. 19th. If any unmarryed man shall lye with a woman by carnal copulation; he shall be whipt thirteen strokes, unless he hath his Natural Mother or Lodgemother authority, in which case he shall not be punished. 20th. If any unmarryed woman shall lye with a man by carnal copulation; she shall be whipt three strokes, unless she hath her Natural Mother or Lodgemother authority, in which case she shall not be punished.

trinitycc 3 years

btw xgreenfairyx, i love the way u think!

trinitycc 3 years

I would have a husband and a boyfriend; I guess that would be 2 husbands. Is that how it works with multiple wives?

MsChoo 3 years

Having more than one wife is not understandable to me why should having more than one husband be any different?

Yogaforlife 3 years

One husband is enough work as it is. I don't need to double my workload.

Lyv 3 years

OK I just mispelled polygamy 3 times. Come on, I'm brazilian & had a rough day. =(

Lyv 3 years

There's really no need to refer to it as "polyandry" or whatever, the word poligamy itself doesn't imply only guys can do it. Also, "accepted norm"? If someone feels one way about poligamous men why would they feel any differently about poligamous women? Unless they were complete tools. But anyways.... Talk about an unlikely scenario ! Having two men love you enough to go for that... Unless they were like, bisexual. Oooh... that would be even better than an open marriage ! I'd like that.

Cherlene 3 years

LOL Starbucks! As for myself - I wouldn't be able to stand having ONE man around - let alone two! :)

Cherlene 3 years

LOL Starbucks! As for myself - I wouldn't be able to stand having ONE man around - let alone two! :)

3 years

um, @tressugar, why is this labelled "alternative polygamy" when the proper term as several people have pointed out is polyandry. WTF!!!

Bettye Wayne 3 years

How about zero husbands?If I found two men I felt a strong connection with, and they were cool with it, then maybe I could, but I think one would be enough to satisfy me... as long as he has a really big penis.

Bettye Wayne 3 years

How about zero husbands? If I found two men I felt a strong connection with, and they were cool with it, then maybe I could, but I think one would be enough to satisfy me... as long as he has a really big penis.

3 years

I'm very happy with just one :) He wouldn't get the love he needed if I was sleeping with someone else too

xgreenfairyx 3 years

I had two boyfriends once...it's just the lifestyle that I choose. They both knew about each other and I shared a seperate relationship with each. It was difficult, sometimes unbearably so...but I'll never regret it. It was the happiest time of my life. It's clearly not for everybody...but if you're willing to put the work in, and truly love each other, its like having a family.

xgreenfairyx 3 years

3 years

I would take two. But they would have to hire a cleaning lady for me and no one is delivering more than two kids and they would have to take me on vacation once a year. I'm no slave chippy, I come with demands! lol.

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