Orgasm the First Time You Have Sex

Did You Orgasm the First Time You Had Sex?

September 16, 2010

There's losing your virginity and losing your orgasm virginity. Rarely are they lost at the same time, but a few of us — very few, I imagine — were fortunate enough to check both of our lists in one memorable night. Were you one? If so, share your secret in the comments!

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2 years 13 weeks

I am a man. Here are my thoughts: PAINFUL FIRST TIME BELIEF Not all women experience pain during their first time. Painless first time is due to her other hard physical activities and (vaginal) masturbation skills. The belief that first time sex always hurts a woman is a remnant of our sexist ancestral past. Long ago, people believed that sex is for a man's pleasure only. But times have changed now. We now know that women masturbate too. It teaches them how to orgasm and how to get aroused. HOW "PAINFUL FIRST TIME" BELIEF LEAD TO THE DOUBLE STANDARD? If an ADULT male teacher had sex with an underage teen girl, society would consider her as a victim. The ADULT male teacher would be condemned to jail. If an ADULT female teacher had sex with an underage teen boy, society would consider the teen boy as "fortunate". The ADULT female teacher would be admired and fantasized by society. This is because of the belief that first time sex always hurts a girl, even if it is not always true. Consequently, most teen girls fear penetration because they expect it to be painful. Teen boys never expect their first time to be painful. Because of this "painful first time" belief, imagine how worse would the pain be if a teen girl was penetrated by an ADULT penis. Ouch! She is too tight and his penis is too big. A penis can rip and tear an under-aged vagina. But an ADULT vagina can NOT rip or tear an under-aged penis. Her vagina is large enough to accommodate his penis. Plus, teen boys do not expect to feel pain in their first time. This GENDER BIAS belief about the human anatomy had influenced the double standard. Most of us are genetically designed to learn how to masturbate because it teaches us how to be sexually self aware and be familiar with our body's sexual functions. It gives us ownership of our bodies. If a woman does not know how to use her vagina, then she does not own her vagina. God owns her vagina to control the population. There are three forms of God's natural birth control. They are: 1.) Vaginismus -involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles that makes sex painful and impossible for her. 2.) Thick hymen 3.) Infertility If she has any of one of these three sexual dysfunctions, then she is NOT built for sex. She is destined for celibacy or becoming a nun.

2 years 13 weeks

I am a man. If you're a woman and you did not orgasm the first time and felt pain instead, it means you did not teach yourself how to get aroused. You masturbation skills are either too limited (clit only) or just lacking. Why would a woman have sex if she expects pain? She probably has no self respect and no self esteem and thinks that sex is just a chore. Sex is NOT a chore. It is a craving and a desire. A woman should be begging for it. If you're a woman, how can you tell what feels good if you don't even know? Why would a hymen be important if she can tear it through strenuous non-sexual activities. The hymen may be a hindrance to a woman's pleasure if it is too thick. That's why it is IMPORTANT for women to masturbate (both clitoral and vaginal). VAGINAL RIGHTS I am a man who believes in WOMEN'S RIGHTS. Without women's rights, women would still be treated as baby factories instead of human beings with choices. If a woman has a right to say NO to sex, then so does her VAGINA. She should respect her VAGINAL RIGHTS. They are: 1.) Vagina's right to refuse sex. 2.) Vagina's right to self-pleasure 3.) Vagina's right to self-lubricate. By knowing these rights, one should tell the difference between sex and rape. Penetrating a dry, unaroused, unstimulated and unwilling vagina is RAPE. Especially if a woman is DUMB about her vagina. RAPE is indeed a lack of consent. If her vagina does not give a penis a consent, it will definitely be painful for her. If her vagina feels so much pain during penetration, then it means her vagina is refusing sex. She should respect her vaginal rights. Women are not baby factories.

2 years 27 weeks

My first time I was 16 or 17, me and my boyfriend lasted 2 almost 3 hours. It was a little painful but in a good way. As far as orgasms go, we both did, at least to my knowledge we did. It was both our first times, but we did lots of stuff before actual intercourse, so I'd say he knows my body very well. I believe in order to have a great sexual relationship with a bf/gf or whoever for that matter, there should definitely be some sort of sexual attraction for the other person, if you have to force yourself to think about sex and come up with insane scenarios like putting a bag over his face and a blind fold over your eyes theeeeen you probably shouldn't be having sex with that person and i doubt you'd have an 'O' . There are a lot of things that factor into great sex and great sex that leads to an Orgasm but the main thing I think is passion, that living in the moment feeling, where all you want to do is rip the other persons clothes off and be completely naked with the other person physically and emotionally, then again that could just be my opinion.

Venus1 2 years 34 weeks

Orgasm first time? Penetrative no. Oral yes.

kurniakasih 2 years 34 weeks

Wow. Lucky 200 something people. I definitely didn't. It hurt, and yah, I have masturbated before and reached orgasm out of the masturbation but vaginal penetration for the first time = ouch, ouch, ouch. Plus it was my ex's first time too. He lasted like 30 seconds or something. The first O from intercourse came around a few months later.

inlove23 2 years 35 weeks

haha, YEA RIGHT! My first time was uncomfortable and painful. My first orgasm from sex was 3-4 years later! lol. But, even though losing it wasn't with the right guy I believe that having an orgasm with my current boyfriend (Mr. Right) was more important than losing it in the first place! lol

shreerose 2 years 35 weeks

No, it freaking hurt the first time I had sex. So uncomfortable!

2 years 35 weeks

I was having orgasms long before I had penis/vagina intercourse. There are lots of ways to have sex, not all of them include intercourse and not all require a partner. Every woman should discover how to orgasm by herself, before having sex with a partner. That will make for a much better chance at having a fulfilling experience with a partner. By the way, research shows that most women never have orgasm through intercourse alone. Most require direct clitoral stimulation, and many women never have orgasm during intercourse. That's okay. Orgasms are good, with or without intercourse, during or not during intercourse. Get to know and enjoy your own body before you try to share it with someone else.

lauraxtc 2 years 35 weeks

LOL I didn't. I tried I remember going hard at it. lol. But I didn't understand why I couldn't. I didn't until i was completely comfortable with myself. Now that I am older (25) I am having better orgasms than I did when i was 20. :)

2 years 35 weeks

I am 17, still a virgin, but wow, there are a whole lot of no's. I hope that my 1st time won't be painful at least. Pleasure can wait, but I have a low tolerance for pain, so I've kinda put it off, having sex. I've heard horror stories, and I've heard fairy tales. I just hope that mine is not bad.

janetmouse 2 years 35 weeks

LOL...he was done in a second so didn't give me much time!

2 years 35 weeks

haha, I'm a guy and I didn't orgasm my first time. I actually didn't like it the first couple of times. We were both virgins, of course I lied to the guys and said it was great. haha

nightfang 2 years 35 weeks

anonymous just make sure he goes down heaps on you first and ur at a point where u just must have it in there and you should be fine. im pretty sure i came when i first did it. this was after weeks of being with the dude and after doing everything else but penetration and knowing what turns me on,being confident and having no anxiety or stress about sex whatsoever.

2 years 35 weeks

Man that's a lot of no's :( I hope my first time would be pleasant for both matters.

jazzytummy 2 years 35 weeks

30 people are lying

2 years 35 weeks

Sex, for me, was really painful and not arousing at all for the first two years, and I only just figured out how to recognize feelings of arousal and actually orgasm last year (6 years after I first began having sex). Wish things would've been easier, but oh well I suppose.

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