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My Boyfriend Wants a Threesome

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Recently my boyfriend told me that he wants to have a threesome with another woman. He said it's "just something he's always been curious about and has never done before." Personally, I have also been curious about this, however I don't like the idea of doing it with my boyfriend so much. When I was single, it was something that was on my mind, but now I'm not sure how I feel about it anymore because it's someone I care about as opposed to people I'm not in a relationship with. He is very serious about doing this and I don't know what to do. I tried putting it off by saying that neither of us really know any women who would be up for it —but he still brings it up and wants to start looking for someone together.

I'm really torn because it is something I would do, but I wouldn't want the woman to have him to herself in any way. I am not a jealous person and I know I am an attractive woman and am 100 percent confident in myself, yet I still feel like it might be a bad idea. He claims that all he wants is for him and I to have intercourse and for her to be there to watch or do things to me. Maybe the both of us give him oral. Or he wants to watch the two of us together.  But in the heat of the moment, I don't know what would happen. I do not want him to have sex with her and I have made this very clear to him. He says he wouldn't do that. But I'm nervous. He really wants to do this.

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I feel pressured because I'm younger than him as well. I am 20, he is 26. He says that it's just a threesome and it's something he just wants to try. He is making it sound like it's not really a big deal, but to me it's more than just sex. I feel like he might not care about me the way I care about him. We have an amazing sex life, so I cant understand why he wants to do this so badly. I would really love to hear about anyone else's experiences in similar situations? I need advice badly.

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