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My Boyfriend Still Talks to His Ex-Wife

"I'm Upset That My Boyfriend Works With His Ex-Wife"

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

My boyfriend was with his ex for nine years. They got married, and within a few months, she broke up with him and moved to another continent. They had issues, but when I started dating him — just four months after she left — he told me they were on good terms. Ever since we started dating, we've taken things slowly because we both just came out of long-term relationships. Ten months later, we're very much in love, and everything's going great, except for this: I recently found out he's still working with his ex.

When we first started dating, he told me that he felt responsible for taking care of her and making sure she's OK because it was his fault that they broke up. She lives on another continent, but her lifestyle is far worse than it used to be when she was with him because she has a hard time finding a job. When they were together, she worked for his consulting agency, so I assume he's helping her out financially by sending her projects to work on.

Now I don't have a problem with this at all. That he's trying to help her. My problem is that he told me he'd be open about everything, then he didn't say a word about her for months. Every now and then, when I turn off his phone alarm, I see a text or email from her. It's been over four times this week, so now I'm getting annoyed because that's just too often. I'm afraid he's still too concerned with her, while she's not even his wife anymore! I feel like he's holding onto her in any way he can — which won't let our relationship progress. I'm not even sure what I find worse: the fact that they talk so often or the fact that he's trying to help her out with work. I haven't said anything to him yet because I don't want to be that jealous girlfriend, but I do believe I have something to say here.

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