My boyfriend told me about his fetish last night.
He says that he'd like me to keep high, spiky heels on during sex and that for foreplay he wants to be adventurous with the heel and watch me lick them, etc..
I know I have to appreciate his honestly and be willing to try new things in the bedroom for him, but I am not sure how to respond to this because it would be a major turn off for me.
I am a little bit scared of how far he's going to take this high heel thing. Do you think it will be a gateway for future fetishes? Conservative Kat
Dear Conservative Kat
Try this for him just once and keep an open mind. You are correct in thinking that you need to nurture his candor with you - so don't mock him or make fun of him.
Try it and see what happens. It could even be fun. But you definitely have the right to draw the line somewhere. If he asks you to do something to or with the heels that you don't want to do, just say NO.
When you are finished with this experiment, judge the experience. If you think he's too much of a pervert for you, then you've got legitimate grounds for breaking up over sex...but if he's just being honest and likes how a beautiful shoe makes a woman's leg look, give him a break and indulge him!
There are a lot of worse fetishes out there. Did you know some men would pay to have a special lady friend pull their tooth out with no novocain?