I recently got a new boyfriend, pretty much my first serious one ever, and things are going well enough. He showers me with compliments and makes me laugh. He's a great guy, but he has a problem with not knowing the right way to say things. That being said, I feel really comfortable with him.
His parents have recently been pushing him to lose weight and eat healthy, something he doesn't do all the time. Since then, he's been on a health kick and has started suggesting dates where we can be active together, especially after I mentioned that I am a little self conscious about my weight and looks too (I am overweight).
The problem happened last night when we went somewhere private to talk. We talked about what our long term goals were and where we saw ourselves in five years, school and career wise. Out of the blue he starts asking if he can mention something that might be an offensive topic for me. When he continued he started to say that while he has never gone for stick thin girls he has never been with someone my size either. He called me "huge." He then quickly said that it didn't come out right, but that his parents don't want to see him with someone my size even though they have never met me.
I cannot stop thinking about what he said and why it came at such a random time. I asked him if someone said something to him (we had recently hung out with some of his friends that he has known for a while), he said that everything he said came from him and apologized for not saying it in the right way. It is really bothering me and I am not sure how to get past his comments. Any advice?
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