Being a gentleman can walk the fine, Chuck Bass line between sleazy and smooth. What was once considered gentlemanly could now easily be a universal turnoff. So what is a 2010 gentleman made of? Here are 12 traits to start.
- Read the news today: We know he was on the Internet, but can he talk about the big stories? A modern-day gentleman can.
- Doesn't overuse Facebook: I wouldn't go as far as Christina Hendricks and say he shouldn't have a Facebook account (they're kind of an obligatory), but he also shouldn't be updating it like a 16-year-old girl. True for Twitter too.
- Dresses up without borrowing: He may need to rent a tux, but other than that he's ready, pressed, and set for any occasion.
- You can take him anywhere: Whether it's to an art opening or a bar closing, he knows how to act, dress, and circulate at (nearly) every occasion.
- Recommends books: He not only reads, but he has an opinion on what's good, what's not, and what you'd like.
- Tips well: If you can't afford the tip, then you can't afford the dinner. A gentleman knows this, and he will not try to weasel out of it.
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- Pays you back: Nothing should stop him from paying you back, especially if it's a large sum. Not even a breakup!
- Doesn't talk about exes: Unless you ask him (and do you really want to?), he doesn't talk about his ex-girlfriends. Especially by obliquely referring to them as "friends"!
- Can cook dinner: Really, it's not that hard. It doesn't have to be amazing or gourmet or even in season; it just needs to be, well, cooked.
- Holds the door: It may sound old-fashioned to the point of passé, but it's one of those small gestures that's just better off done. If he does it, we notice; and if he doesn't, we wonder why.
- Is kind to women — and men: Kindness knows no gender, and he knows that. If he's nice to only ladies, then he's in it to win them. And, he'll always lose.
- He's not perfect, and he knows it: With this list, we're not saying a modern-day gentleman is made of perfection. We don't want to live with that, and we certainly don't want to live with a man who believes it.
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