MIXING FRIENDSHIP WITH RESPONSIBILITY

Dear Sugar
Due to circumstances, I was forced to move out of my parent's home. I am fine with it considering that I'm 21 now and it's probably time for me to move out and live on my own. It was just really nice to live rent free.

The problem is that I've rented a two bedroom apartment and my best friend assumed that the second room was for her - but it's not. It's really for my tanning bed.

I love my friend but her past with other roommates isn't so hot. Apparently she doesn't pay her rent on time or in full - ever. She also likes meeting men on online dating websites and inviting them over. I don't think I am comfortable with that. I really don't want to risk these things ruining our friendship.

Currently, she lives with a relative and things are good for her there. How can I work this out? I don't want her to feel unwanted. Should I just let her move in? But if I do, how do I approach her about paying bills? Ugh! Choice To Make Joice

Dear Choice To Make Joice
It sounds like living with your friend would make you way too anxious. If you don't need the money, then it's not worth it.

If she's your best friend, then she'll understand that you want to live alone. Trust me, it's better to have a short conversation now about it then trying to figure out how to kick her and her stuff out when the lease is up. By year's end your friendship is going to suffer.

Just tell her that you are really excited about living alone for the first time and that you are sorry if she thought she was moving in, but that you have no intentions of having a roommate. She won't be too upset once she sees how happy you are. I understand how hard it can be to say 'no' to someone that you love, but if you don't you'll regret it.

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