Instead it depends on which of the following three categories — outlined in Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of our First Sexual Experiences — you fall into. "Gifters" hold virginity up on a pedestal, believing it's something precious to be saved, and the "stigmatized" see it as a burden, something that's to be crossed off life's checklist. "Processors" probably have the healthiest attitude: they see first-time sex as something to be experienced — one of many experiences to come.
Writer Kate Monro has been documenting virginity-lost stories for nearly a year on her site The Virginity Project. From the mundane to the unbelievable, she collects every story she hears.