Our friends Em & Lo recently wrote the book Sex: How to Do Everything and turned their risqué research into a UK TV series. If you don't live on that side of the Atlantic, but still want to learn "everything," you can get the program on DVD. It might make for the perfect naughty, yet educational Valentine's Day gift. Since Em & Lo wrote the book on sex (literally!), I asked the pair for some advice.
What's the first tip you would give someone just starting to explore better sex?
What works for you trumps any sex advice you get, even sex advice from us! Pay attention to your body and how it reacts, and share those responses with your partner. Also, masturbate, masturbate, masturbate — especially women. It's the best way to learn your body's sexual response. How can you teach a partner what turns you on if you don't know yourself?
What should go on the sex to-do list of a woman who thinks she’s tried everything?
It really depends who that woman is — a hipster in downtown NYC who attends orgies on a weekly basis? Or a housewife in the midwest who thinks she's a little kinkier than the Joneses? Taboos are such a personal thing, so it's impossible to know what someone means by "everything." So the only way to really answer that is to say, if you've haven't tried something and just the thought of it makes you blush, that's a very good sign that you'll probably enjoy it! Check out our show if you need ideas . . .
How would you get a skeptical or shy partner into new sex techniques?
To see what Em & Lo have to say and to watch the trailer from their DVD, read more.
You could buy a sex manual (like ours!) and suggest browsing it together over a glass of wine — or just leave it on their bedside table, conveniently open to the page you want them to check out.
Also, it's often great to suggest new things when the mood is sexy but sex isn't imminent. Suggesting a new activity when you're both naked and about to do it might feel like you're putting them on the spot. But if you're out on a date and the booze is flowing and the conversation is cheeky, you could say something like, "You know what I've always been curious to try. . ." and see where that leads. Of course, you could just get the DVD — it's funny and entertaining enough to be something you watch together for fun, respectable enough to not feel too porn-y, and informative enough that you'll learn some new tricks and techniques to try together!
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