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Impossible to Orgasm During Sex

Group Therapy: Orgasm Troubles With New Guy

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I need help on how to orgasm with a partner. I can masturbate on my own, but sometimes it takes a ridiculous amount of time to even get myself off. I've had a pretty okay sex life, nothing too great until my current partner; he's just great. But unfortunately for me, he loves it when a girl is really enjoying it and in turn orgasms from it, but I just can't. I do enjoy it; it feels great, but there's never a release, and I just don't know how to.

In regards to my sexual past, I'd say I was a late bloomer; I didn't have teenage relationships where you get a lot of "experience" foreplaying and stuff. I went directly into pleasing the men and not really letting myself get pleased or relax enough to let them, I guess? I'm also finding now that I'm hardly ever really wet down there. It is hit or miss; sometimes I can be drenched but others dry as a bone, and mentally I'm the same into the sex we are about to have.

I have purchased books in the past about this subject — didn't seem to help. I've approached a doctor about this, and she just shrugged me off (which was embarrassing, I don't talk to anyone about this and the first person — other than my boyfriend — totally down-steps it). Now I know people say, not every girl is going to orgasm, but from what I read, it seems like it does, so I feel like I'm the only one in the world missing out. I'm 27, not a young one, but seriously frustrated in more ways than one.

Any, any, any help/suggestions would be greatly appreciated, even if it is other books or websites or anything. I'm seemingly desperate to have an orgasm!!!!

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