How to Make Friends After College

Editor's note: The following is a guest post written by Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent, authors of How to Eat Like a Hot Chick, How to Love Like a Hot Chick, and the just-released Live Like a Hot Chick.

It’s relatively easy to make friends in high school or college when you’re living in a giant building with thousands of other co-eds who are going through the same experiences as you. Once you graduate to the hectic working world, it can be much harder to find time to find friends or know where to find friends, but there are still opportunities to make lifelong pals who share your interests and hobbies, and will change your life for the better. Here’s how:

  1. Join a Gym — Say hello to that friendly looking girl in your yoga class, or ask the woman who runs next to you on the treadmill every Tuesday if she’ll sign up for a spin class with you. It’s great to make friends with people who share your exercise schedule and healthy lifestyle, and if you enjoy her company when she’s sweating, huffing, and puffing, think about how much fun you’ll have after a shower and a martini.
  2. Be Social at Work — Don’t waste all day chatting at a colleague’s desk instead of doing your job, but open yourself up to connecting with co-workers. Just be careful about opening up too much — that means going to happy hours, lunches, and sales at Sephora together, not bitching about your boss or sharing every drunken escapade.
  3. Throw a Party — Even if you think you don’t have any friends, you’ll be surprised by how many people will show up to your place if you just invite them. Encourage everyone to bring their own friends and you’ll meet new people who will be obligated to invite you to their next party, where you can meet even more new friends.
  4. Be Bold — Chemistry doesn’t just happen between the sheets. There is definitely such a thing as “friend chemistry,” and it is just as rare and special as a spark between you and a guy. If you find yourself chatting with the girl in line with you at the deli counter and it makes the time you spend waiting pass in an instant, don’t just buy your bologna and leave. Be bold and ask for her digits or email address, and you may head home with a great story about how you met your new best friend.
  5. Look Online — Find an online group that’s related to something going on in your life. There are so many groups for specific cities, industries, etc. If you’re a new mom, meet others by chatting with them online about your baby’s sleep schedule and follow up with a play date, or if you’re new to a neighborhood join a local meet up group. If you can do everything from find dates to buy bras online, you can certainly find friends there, too.
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