How Do I Tell Him I Want More Sex?

Group Therapy: How Do I Tell Him I Want More Sex?

This is an excerpt from a question in Group Therapy on our TrèsSugar Community. Feel free to add your advice in the comments!

I am 24, and he is 49. Yes, I know. It's a very obvious age difference, but the reality of the situation is that neither of us gives a damn what anyone else thinks. I will be 25 in a couple months, he will be 50 a few months after. He looks and seems like he could be 40. Everyone agrees when they meet him that he looks and seems younger than his actual age.

I really and truly do not care that there is a 25-year age gap between us. I would marry this man and have kids with him tomorrow if that's what we decided to do.

The ONLY problem in our age difference that is causing me to question is this: We do not have the same sex drive. I know he's attracted to me; he thinks I am the most gorgeous woman he has ever laid eyes on. And I think he's the most gorgeous man. The passion is there. The chemistry is there. The problem is, I want to f*ck his brains out every single time we're together, but I just sense that his drive is not in the same mode as mine. If we were cars, I am accelerating down the freeway and he is coasting through a country road on neutral.

I need to bring this up to him, because I'm starting to get aggravated. When we have sex, it's the most amazing thing I've ever experienced. But we don't do it enough, and I am struggling with a way to bring this up in the most sensitive, tactful, appropriate manner that does not make him feel like less than a man. My friends who are all my age say I need to own it and come out with something like, "I need this. You need to step up and put it in or take Viagra." Funny? Maybe. Horrific and hurtful? Absolutely. I am falling in love; I DO love him . . . I don't want to hurt him.

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