Skip Nav

How Do I Get a Man to Ask Me Out?

The 5 Magic Words to Get a Guy to Ask You Out

A Quora user asked the question: "How do I get a man to ask me out?" Self-described "heterosexual man" Adam Nyhan's answer is by far the most popular despite (or maybe because of) its simplicity. Ready to know the key to getting a love interest to ask you out?

Let me tell you the five magic words. I agree that you ideally would feel totally comfortable asking him out, but you are not. That's not the end of the world. So there is a half-step that you can take. It's simple: it isn't really asking him out, it's just letting him know that you would say yes if he asked. So, next time you see him, deploy this weapon:

"We should hang out sometime."

Now he knows that you are open to the idea. Which is often enough to nudge him over the edge. Believe me, you women (I'm assuming you are a woman) tend to think you are as clear as water about signaling to men what you want to do, but I'm afraid you are not. So he may want to ask you out but be afraid of rejection.

So if you say the magic words above, he's at least more likely to ask you out. If he doesn't, then you have two choices, kiddo. One, accept that he isn't interested and move on to the next guy — who, I promise you, will arrive soon. Or two, summon up your ovarian fortitude, grit your teeth, and do what we guys have to most of the times that we want to go on a date with somebody: bust a move yourself.

Do you use this strategy, or do you just ask a guy out yourself?

Latest

Download our new Selfie app!

+