He Stood Me Up, Then Invited Me to His Holiday Party

Go, go, go... and look amazing! : )
Afterall... the best revenge is happiness.

Get the spite out of your head this instant! You should probably not go... he's not interested in dating you, but probably would be willing to have sex with you if you offered. Or got really drunk. The fact that you're still upset about the lame way he bailed on you suggests that you're not over what happened, so why torture yourself or put yourself into a situation that could easily end in regrets? Go find yourself a real date who's really interested in you for that night and send this guy your best wishes for the party you're too busy to attend. You can look amazing for someone else... don't waste your mascara on him!

If you want to go to this holiday party, go. But do it because you genuinely want to go to the party, not because you have any lingering hopes for something to happen.

Tell him you'll come, then a few hours before, send him a note saying you can't because you have to finish a last minute project.

(Just kidding)

Don't go and forget about him. He never would have cancelled on you if he was that into you....sorry. If you didn't care so much, I would say go and enjoy the party, but because you are still so pissed about it, bail. Focus all of that energy on someone who actually wants to make an effort.

If you feel comfortable going, then go. But completely assume that he is not interested in you, and is just inviting you as a friend. Obviously things did not work out for you 2 romantically, so he probably just needs to invite more people for the party. Why not just go for the sake of going to a fun party, get dressed up and bring some friends? Or better yet, perhaps you could bring a date? But if you are going to uncomfortable or feel super awkward, then don't do it because the whole point of a party is to have fun and relax. Good luck.

Go just for fun and not him. Look your best and if you don't connect with him then I'm sure you'll meet a bunch of other eligible men!

Eh. I guess you could go. He didn't really stand you up since he canceled through a text. Not the best way to cancel but he did notify you. It sounds like you both don't have a lot invested one way or the other. You could go and see how it works out. Who knows, it could be a nice time, and maybe he could make up to the cancellation.

in fact you don't know the reason he cancel the fist date! You want to go to the party but you want him to know you feeled burned! why not reply him that you got his message but need to check your schedule before making the decision! check his response !

I say don't go. Seems like this guy has made it pretty clear that he's not interested or he would be pursuing you more aggressively (we've all read/seen "He's Just Not That Into You") and now he's trying to mess around with feelings. Smells like he's either a) hoping to get some action from you or b) using you to avoid showing up solo at the holiday party. Please, you can do better than that!

I'm sorry but I don't really see what the problem is. You were mad he cancelled on you yet never confronted him. You've seen him since but don't flirt anymore. And now he has sent an impersonal evite to you and you want to know what to do?
Obviously you are no more then a friend to him or maybe no more then an acquaintance. Your feelings are only your own since you never talked to him about them.
Either go, have a good time and hang out with new and possibly more interesting people or stay at home.

He sent the invite because he wants you to go, but not for the right reasons. He hopes that you'll have enough eggnog and wine to let all your feelings, memories, and inhibitions go out the window, and why is that? Because he wants to do you, but looks to me that's about all he wants. If you're looking for something else however, don't go to this party. Even if you were looking for a f^^^ buddy, don't be buddies with this guy.

do whatever you think is best. just don't go thinking that he wants you there because he is interested romantically. he sent you an EVITE! not very personal. get dressed up, bring a girlfriend, have a few drinks, and leave. at least use him for a drink or two. haha.

but if you don't feel comfortable going, don't!

I would not go. Just let go of what happened. Let go of him altogether.

I have to agree with most of the group. If you feel like going and having a good time with no expectations then you should go. You never know who you might meet there. Besides looking good is the best revenge.

DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING.

If he had really wanted to go out on a date he would have rescheduled the one he cancelled on.

I know that we all hope for the fantasy, and wish for that movie moment to happen where you walk in and he realizes what a mistake he made and falls to his knees and begs your forgiveness. This almost never ever happens outside of the movies.

I wouldn't go.

a. He's not into you and b. he needs a date.

if you want to go as a friend, go, but know that he's not interested in pursing a romantic relationship with you. if you're OK with that, have a ball — tis the season!

I would go, and make sure to look super hot.

There's only ever one reason to go to a party: do you think you will have a good time and enjoy yourself there? If yes, go. If not, stay home.

And stop holding a grudge because he had to cancel. Do you even know he saw it as a "date" and not just a movie with a friend? If you go to the party, let your guard down--even if you two won't regain your spark, maybe you'll meet someone new.

Definitely doesn't seem interested in a romantic relationship- so if you're okay with that, go. Otherwise, kick him to the curb.

If it were me, and we've not been friendly after him standing me up, I'd not go.

But if you want to go, go ahead. Just like the other posters said, don't expect him to think of you romantically just because he gave you an e-vite (which I'm pretty sure it's pretty impersonal--since I ask the person I invite to our party this year myself face-to-face or via phone call).

I wouldn't spend any time with him or make tedious conversation. If he can't reschedule he's not worth wasting any effort for. Inform him the next contestant in the application process for dating has already arrived and he's services are not needed.

Decline the invite. I agree with whoever said that he is probably just looking for a friend with benefits.

Screw that and him........

You can find something better to do. I wouldn't go........

I say, bring a girl-friend, get dolled up, use him for his drinks and food for a couple hours, and then leave early and go out and have a good time elsewhere. You may feel 'burned' because he dissed you and you haven't gotten a chance to even the score.

If he is still interested in you, you'll be keeping the door *unlocked* but not *open* (if that makes any sense) and he can follow up later if he wants; and if he's not interested, at least you've gotten something out of him. And who knows, maybe you will meet someone.

You say this party is at his studio, does that mean his studio-apartment or is this some sort of artist-studio? If you're invited but the rest of the circle-of-friends isn't, maybe they've already seen his work and he's just hoping you'll bring a new friend so he can get his name out to more people. He may be completely using you for self-promotion.

Also, if you have anything better to do, don't bother going.

Well I don't think simple saying no I can't make it will spite him however saying yes I'll be there and then cancelling at the last minute will. That's not my recommendation by the way I'm just making an observation.

I also noticed this "I received an evite to a holiday party at his studio, which he followed up with a one liner that said "hope you can make it!"

My question is did others get the same evite with the same "hope you can make it!"? He could be inviting you as just one of the bunch and not singling you out for anything other than to come join the gang.

the last minute cancellation obviously bothered you and i think that nixed anything for the future. i would say you should pass on the invitation.

I think you should pass on the invitation, too. Forget about this guy.

I don't see what the problem here is. I think she may be reading too deeply into something that doesn't exist. "Do I go and pretend it never happened — essentially giving him a very late second chance..." - second chance at what??? To stand you up again? Maybe he never even saw you as dating potential and thought it was no big deal to cancel on you in the first place. If you want to go, then go. If you still have a grudge, then stay home. But don't be going thinking he sees you more than a friend, because if he did, he would've pursued you by now.

I wouldn't go. It is clear that the guy is not that into you, he is just playing nasty games.