Have You Ever Had a Friend With Benefits?

March 19, 2010

Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher will soon bring to the big screen a concept many of you already know about: friends with benefits. The actors have signed on for a new project currently titled, you guessed it, Friends With Benefits. I'd argue that any good relationship has both sex and friendship, but when it comes to a strict friends-with-benefits arrangement, that extra ingredient — namely, monogamy — is not involved. Have you ever had regular sex with a friend sans a serious commitment?

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2 years 33 weeks

Well, yes I have, but we never had sex. Just hung out kissed, hugged things of that nature, but there was never any sex involved.

Miss Senorita 3 years 8 weeks

Yes I have had two but now i'm in a longterm relationship.

jazzytummy 3 years 8 weeks

No, I am one of the weird ones who can't fully enjoy sex with a man unless I care deeply about him. Sex makes me feel a bit vulnerable, so I need to have that trust between us.

jazzytummy 3 years 8 weeks

No, I am one of the weird ones who can't fully enjoy sex with a man unless I care deeply about him. Sex makes me feel a bit vulnerable, so I need to have that trust between us.

Pallas Athena 3 years 8 weeks

Not a FWB, but a fuck buddy. I never thought I would have either. I honestly see this as a one time thing. I do love and care about him. He says he cares about me. It is just one fucked up, long, messy story.

Pallas Athena 3 years 8 weeks

mix tape 3 years 8 weeks

I tried the FWB with an ex and it was a dumb idea. Ended up getting back together only to break up. Sex was good, but we still loved each other which made it a mess. I couldn't have sex with someone I didn't love, but I could see how this arrangement would be convenient for some people.

3 years 8 weeks

Yes, off and on, and now we've been seriously dating for almost 3 years now.

ayuninur 3 years 8 weeks

KadBunny 3 years 9 weeks

Once, and I blew it by getting attached. The sex was awesome, I really miss him. :P

Girl Jen 3 years 9 weeks

Yes! It is a wonderful arrangement. My FWB is a guy friend. We've always had some attraction and some chemistry, but we quickly figured out that a relationship between us would not work. We'd drive each other crazy, and not in the good way. Besides, we both have different goals in life.So, we just sleep together and it's awesome.

Girl Jen 3 years 9 weeks

StellaBliss 3 years 9 weeks

In my line of work it's easy to become jaded to the idea that men could be interested in a woman for anything but sex. So.. YES, i've had friends with benefits. http://stellablissfromhousewifetowhore.blogspot.com/

StellaBliss 3 years 9 weeks

In my line of work it's easy to become jaded to the idea that men could be interested in a woman for anything but sex. So.. YES, i've had friends with benefits.http://stellablissfromhousewifetowhore.blogspot.com/

tlsgirl 3 years 9 weeks

Yep, two actually. The first was a guy friend and we didn't exactly date, but we hung out a lot and were there for booty calls when we both wanted one. It was good. We're still friends 10 years later. The other started as as my best girlfriend with benefits, which was awesome, then became my girlfriend, and now is a total unqualified disaster. Bad idea there, bad bad idea.

karjofas86 3 years 9 weeks

ive had FWB but never had sex with them, i just fool around and kiss... i think i never had sex with them because deep inside i love them and was wanting to be with them in a serious relatonship...and i was foolish to think that by just fooling around they would ask me to be in a relatoship, because they would want more (sex)....ive past that fase in my life, and have been with my bf for 2 amazing years! :)

karjofas86 3 years 9 weeks

ive had FWB but never had sex with them, i just fool around and kiss... i think i never had sex with them because deep inside i love them and was wanting to be with them in a serious relatonship...and i was foolish to think that by just fooling around they would ask me to be in a relatoship, because they would want more (sex).... ive past that fase in my life, and have been with my bf for 2 amazing years! :)

Frenched 3 years 9 weeks

Well, we didn't do anything more than just make out but, hubby and I started out as strictly just friends. Friendship turned friends-with-making out-benefits, which turned into an actual long-term relationship and now we are married.

GlowingMoon 3 years 9 weeks

Nope.

GlowingMoon 3 years 9 weeks

Nope.

3 years 9 weeks

Ughhh...FWB's are so complicated. My circumstances are a little different, but kinda of go along with #10. My "friend" was a friend of my ex-husbands, and we never did anything or felt anything (at least not on my part) inappropriate during my marriage, but close to the end he was there for me alot as a friend who I could talk to and hear an outside perspective, so I trusted him so much. Then after I left my husband, which has only been 3 months, we started hanging out and doing fun things together. We both established we were attracted to one another, and one night I asked him to kiss me. After an AMAZING, passionate make out session, that was it. We had a great emotional, and physical connection, so a few dates later we had even better sex. He's an amazing lover and I cant get enough of him. BUT I just got out of a marriage and am not ready for a boyfriend yet. He wants so much more and doesnt understand that yes-my marriage was very unhealthy and toxic before I left, but I still need to heal in alot of ways. I consider him a great friend and great lover, but he wants more now. And I cant say I dont want more, eventually though, not now. Not yet. It's just more complicated once you have sex, someone always gets stronger feelings sooner than the other person is ready for and one person always ends up hurt unless BOTH are ready for another monogomous relationship. I cant deny its super fun amd exciting at first, but take it from me, you'll usually end up losing a friend, and not benifit at all in the end. :-(

starbucks 3 years 9 weeks

I get attached to easily. Even with the best intentions, I know I would start thinking about him as if I was in love (even if I wasn't). When I fall in love I need to do so without being to intimate because only that way I know, I am not fooling myself. My boyfriend and I waited for quite sometime before we had sex.

starbucks 3 years 9 weeks

I get attached to easily. Even with the best intentions, I know I would start thinking about him as if I was in love (even if I wasn't). When I fall in love I need to do so without being to intimate because only that way I know, I am not fooling myself.My boyfriend and I waited for quite sometime before we had sex.

Bettye Wayne 3 years 9 weeks

I'm with GregS, I don't have to be in love with someone to sleep with them, but I need to care.I've done FWB before, and it's a nice arrangement, but I think I'm at a point in my life when I need to figure out what exactly I'm looking for in a long term relationship, not just chasing after sex.

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