Have You Ever Cheated?

September 22, 2009

I've read a lot about women cheating on their partners lately.

Yesterday in our Conventional Wisdom column, an agnostic woman offered some advice to a Christian woman who felt guilty for cheating on her husband. And last week an Ohio woman, determined to win back her fiancé, made headlines for standing outside a supermarket wearing a sign that said: "I cheated. Honk if I deserve a second chance." The back read: "I honestly love him."

If there's any insight to be gained from this sign-wearing woman's antics, it's that many cheaters feel an enormous amount of guilt for betraying the person they love. Have you ever been in that situation?

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lauraxtc 3 years 32 weeks

I have on my last ex. He deserved it... well that is kinda immature. I was with him for 6 years But we were at the point where we didn't even want to be together anymore and since we lived together, we weren't able to get out of it so easily. I loved him so much in the beginning but he always did me wrong and cheated on me. The opportunity came up and I took it. I didn't get caught. No regrets. When we did break up, I did hurt inside but I knew we were no longer happy together. So I moved on. :)

lauraxtc 3 years 32 weeks

pinkprincess1101 3 years 34 weeks

Never have and I know damn well that I never will. My ex taught me that lesson when he cheated on me and there was a child in question. I vowed that I would never allow someone to ever hurt the way I hurt when I found this out, and we had already divorced when I found out. I have never had the desire to cheat it actually disgusts me thinking about cheating.

weffie 3 years 34 weeks

Nope! It seems ridiculous to waste time with someone if they aren't enough for you, and if you're looking elsewhere they obviously aren't. Much cleaner to just end it than cheat.That being said, I've been the "other woman" on multiple occasions, so my karma's screwed even though I've never cheated on anyone :P

weffie 3 years 34 weeks

Nope! It seems ridiculous to waste time with someone if they aren't enough for you, and if you're looking elsewhere they obviously aren't. Much cleaner to just end it than cheat. That being said, I've been the "other woman" on multiple occasions, so my karma's screwed even though I've never cheated on anyone :P

fashionplate525 3 years 34 weeks

Nope!

fashionplate525 3 years 34 weeks

Nope!

3 years 34 weeks

all a part of life, kids

GlowingMoon 3 years 34 weeks

Nope. God forbid, I hope I never will.

pippins_halfling 3 years 34 weeks

Never cheated and don't plan to.

Kimpossible 3 years 34 weeks

Yes, I have I don't regret it either. Not saying that I excuse the behavior, it was part of my journey and it's part of the experiences that have made me who I am today.

staple salad 3 years 34 weeks

I never have, and I don't have the desire to ever cheat. My boyfriend's the only one for me, why should I jeopardize that with someone not nearly as amazing? And I could never, ever hurt my boyfriend.

AujahAcorn 3 years 34 weeks

Yes, when I was younger. Now days I would just break it off. I was to scared to be honest in my teens and early 20's. A little older and a little wiser.

juicebox07 3 years 34 weeks

Never have. Never will.

WritingLikeCrazy 3 years 34 weeks

My boyfriend in college had an "agreement." We were together but could see other people. Turns out, I was the only one who took advantage of the deal. Unfortunately, one of the times I strayed was when we were at a giant party (we hadn't come together and were on a "break") and I left with a semi-celebrity. At the time, I defended myself by saying we had an agreement, but as a grown-up I realize what a jerk I was.

bluebellknoll 3 years 34 weeks

Nope.

cfp 3 years 34 weeks

Yes, I cheated on someone once. I'm not even going to make excuses for it. I did it and it was morally repugnant and I recognize that but I still don't regret what happened at all.

bonniebonnie 3 years 34 weeks

Yes. I cheated on all of my boyfriends except for two (the one before I met my fiance and my fiance). I realize that I was cheating because of low self esteem and, in one case, for retribution. Five years ago, I realized how horrible it was that I couldn't be honest with myself, let alone any one else. I changed and I haven't cheated since. You don't love your husband or boyfriend if you cheat on them. Nor do they really love you if they cheat. It's a deplorable thing to cheat. Never again.

Briandiesel 3 years 34 weeks

Yes. It was payback cheating. It was terrible.

spacekatgal 3 years 34 weeks

I'd never really seen the consequences of cheating firsthand until I started dating my husband. His first wife had an affair on him and destroyed their marriage, and even after 8 years - it's still painful for him to talk about. I was going through his art notebooks one day and found an angry scrawl from that time period, "God, I really hate Liz. She really F-ed up both of our lives." I've never cheated, but if the thought ever occurred to me - I'd remember the devastating human consequences I've seen in my husband. It's the kind of decision that fs up everyone's life.

spacekatgal 3 years 34 weeks

I'd never really seen the consequences of cheating firsthand until I started dating my husband. His first wife had an affair on him and destroyed their marriage, and even after 8 years - it's still painful for him to talk about. I was going through his art notebooks one day and found an angry scrawl from that time period, "God, I really hate Liz. She really (fraked) up both of our lives." I've never cheated, but if the thought ever occurred to me - I'd remember the devastating human consequences I've seen in my husband. It's the kind of decision that fraks up everyone's life.

genesisrocks 3 years 34 weeks

No, all of my relationships we went on a few casual dates before we became a couple, but once we were a couple, that was that. Completely committed to each other,

opentypeA 3 years 34 weeks

Like snooky I cheated on my boyfriend when I was 13 by making out with a guy. I felt horrible but never told him. We broke up later on for other reasons.

mamasitamalita 3 years 34 weeks

yes - my boyfriend cheated on me with a friend a few weeks after my father unexpectedly died because he "couldn't handle my shit", and I thought cheating back on him before I dumped him would make me feel better. did not.

Gdeeaz 3 years 34 weeks

Yes, I was 16 and it was only a kiss. I felt horrible after and ended up telling my boyfriend, he was mad but he got over it. Now I would never cheat on someone.

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