A couple of years ago you were a bridesmaid in your friend’s wedding, and now you’re the one getting married. You guys have been in the same group of girl friends for a long time, but she’s never been one of your closest friends; you often get the vibe that she feels closer to you than you do to her.
You’ve decided that you don’t want her to be a bridesmaid in your wedding — you just want your closest friends standing up with you. You know that she’ll be upset but you don't know what would be worse — to tell her that she’s not going to be a part of your wedding or just let word get out on its own. How would you handle this?