Welcome to DearSugar's new feature: Handle This. I'm going to give you a hypothetical scenario and ask you to tell me how you would handle it in the comments below. Let's give it a whirl.
You were invited to a friend's wedding who you were really close with in college, but since then, you've grown apart due to geography and time constraints. You still communicate over email and text, but haven't seen each other in years, which is why you decided to decline her wedding invitation, not to mention the fact that you've never met her husband-to-be.
You sent in the response card long before the due date and even called to apologize for not being able to make it, but she has ignored your efforts and hasn't called you back. You were planning on sending a wedding gift even though you opted out of the day itself, but now that she has completely stopped talking to you, you're not so sure you want to be that generous. Ladies, we all know how bridezillas can be, so tell me how you would handle this. Would you send a gift and be the bigger person, or write her off as a friend like she seems to be doing to you?