Group Therapy: Do guys play mind games like we do?

The answer is yes and no. Some men play games, some don't. And those who don't play games – it is only because they just don’t' care. I have dated guys that only called me when they wanted me – maybe once a week. I had other guys that would call me or text me every other day just to chat or hang out.

If you are just dating the guy - then I wouldn't worry about it. If you have fun with him and enjoy being around him - then let it go.

But my advice to you is not to jump every time he calls or always be available when he wants you to be. Make your own plans; don't wait around for the phone to ring. Eventually he will get the idea that you are not at his beck and call when ever HE wants to see you. I am sure those phone calls will happen more often.

Good Luck!

It sounds like this guy is kind of wishy-washy. I'd go out with some other guys in the meantime and just see how this unfolds.

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It's never a good thing to play games in a relationship, and what you're suggesting isn't being coy or showing your independence, all it is doing it showing the guy you're a c*nt who likes to play mind games..

If it bothers you that he only calls once a week - tell him.. Rather then sitting by yourself plucking petals off a flower going 'he loves me..' 'he loves me not..' .. COMMUNICATION is key.. Not more perceived mind games on top of intentional mind games..

And I don't think it's a mind game to be honest - the majority of guys loathe talking on the phone...

lets keep the c word off the board, even if you star the vowel. it's so vulgar.

The shoe fits sometimes..

I see nothing about playing games in pinupsweetheart's advice. It's more about self-respect. How is it a mind game if you're accepting what's happening to you? It's not messing with him if he isn't putting in the time to notice.

I do agree that it's also a good idea to be honest with him. If you really like him, Tell him that you'd like to see him on a more regular basis.

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"But my advice to you is not to jump every time he calls or always be available when he wants you to be. Make your own plans; don't wait around for the phone to ring. Eventually he will get the idea that you are not at his beck and call when ever HE wants to see you. I am sure those phone calls will happen more often."

This is a classic mind game.. THat's been floating around for YEARS.. "Don't seem too desperate sweetheart you must hold on to some of your dignity" blahblahblah..

THAT is a mind game.. it's called playing hard to get..

Because to you what you're showing is "Look at me, i'm growing a spine" what he sees is "Wow she's busy all the time... Maybe she's not that into me" and because you're not properly communicating what you're actually feeling.. you're just allowing things to become muddled..

So yes, it's a mind game.. A rather retarded one at that..

There is no need to punish the poor guy just because he isn't following what you deem right.. If you happen to have other plans when he asks by all means don't drop them.. But don't go out to make plans with other ppl just because he asks..

i think whether or not he's into you really depends on how consistent you're going out has happened. has it been every weekend for a few weeks? or is it sporadic, like twice a month? in my opinion, i think that if you have gone out several weekends in a row, he's more into you than you think and more than likely is very busy during the week. if it's less often, i'd be worrying too. also, if it's only a call once a week to ask out and no other contact like e-mail, that seems strange. just remember that if it's making you unhappy, get out of the situation. it won't be worth it in the long run.

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well him only calling once a week does not necessarily mean he isn't into you. some guys just aren't into talking on the phone. they feel weird about it, like they don't have anything to say. so that could be it. i know i like my boyfriend to call everyday, but when we first started dating he only called maybe 4 times a week. i nicely suggested that it would be nice to hear from him more, even if its just to say hi or a sweet text..and lo and behold we talk everyday now. you should nicely suggest that you like to be called more. guys just don't think about this stuff like we do so sometimes you just need to flat out tell them what you like.

it doesn't necessarily mean he's not that into you, but this has happened to me a few times and that's the way it's always worked out. the guys who are into you will make an attempt to call and see you frequently. if they don't make the effort, they're not worth your time anyway!

I would say, if it not too long that you are seeing each other, take it easy. Sometimes, it just takes time