Good Idea or Bad Idea: Befriending a BFF to Get the Date

June 11, 2008

The other night out with a friend, I was approached by a guy who was friendly and talkative. In fact, he was so relaxed that I could tell right off the bat that he wasn’t interested in me. All it took was one glance at the googly eyes he was making at my friend for me to know that he was befriending me as a way of getting to her. I was happy enough to play along, and by the end of the night she was totally excited to have a date for the weekend.

If you’re into dating strategies this seems like a good one, but I'd rather not chance giving some random guy the wrong impression when all I really want to do is talk to his friend. What do you think? Is befriending his BFF to get a date a good idea or a bad idea?

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calli gurl 4 years 18 weeks

suckish idea. im with glowing moon. i hate using people. and thats just rude and inappropriate.

Blackwood 4 years 36 weeks

I really DON'T understand nor support the mechanism of this move. It's ridiculous. If you're an adult, and you happen to like somebody, do yourself a favor and grow a pair. It only makes you look immature.Also, I really loathe when the interested person in question sends a friend to talk to me (either to ask about me or my friend)... it's like... how old are you??:Psorry for the long rant, but this really gets on my nerves.

Blackwood 4 years 36 weeks

I really DON'T understand nor support the mechanism of this move. It's ridiculous. If you're an adult, and you happen to like somebody, do yourself a favor and grow a pair. It only makes you look immature. Also, I really loathe when the interested person in question sends a friend to talk to me (either to ask about me or my friend)... it's like... how old are you?? :P sorry for the long rant, but this really gets on my nerves.

michelle c 4 years 48 weeks

I voted bad idea, because of mixed signals. However I am rarely pursued by guys directly, I think probably because I'm very shy, so I think I understand why a person might take this approach.

urban chic 101 4 years 48 weeks

This happens to me way more often than I like.

juliex0x0 4 years 48 weeks

I've ALWAYS done this strategy and it's never really been too much of a problem. Although the last time I did this, my crush (now current boyfriend) really thought I liked his best friend so he backed off :( and his bff became interested in me. Fortunately for me I was able to turn things around without hurting anyone's feelings:)

i am awesomeness 4 years 49 weeks

I'd probably fall for it myself(think he actually likes me) and have a crush on him, but realizing that that's far-fetched and try to help my BFF out. I haven't been in this situation, but in ones similar to it, I've never been the one that the guys would want =( Just the one to help them get a date with my bud...

Bisque 4 years 49 weeks

For me, I'd want the guy to be straightforward, on both positions, yours and your BFF's. If not, I'd feel suspicious of the guy or at least question why he did that move.

snowysakurasky 4 years 49 weeks

i dont really mind it, but i think its more of a guys move than a girls move. if a girl is going to have the guts to be forward, why waste time on the friend!? i would never approach a guy though so i donno

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Sporky 4 years 49 weeks

I think it's a dumb move, why play games like that? Plus yes, it's not very nice to the other person.

JaimeLeah526 4 years 49 weeks

I think it would give the wrong idea to the other guy. It's not really nice either.

GlowingMoon 4 years 49 weeks

For me, it's a bad idea. That's not my style. I don't like using people.

AujahAcorn 4 years 49 weeks

I hate that move!

AujahAcorn 4 years 49 weeks

I hate that move!

looseseal 4 years 49 weeks

Not everyone is observant enough to correctly interpret human behavior like Dear did there. It'd just be a mess if the BFF thinks you're into him and then the one you really want to date would definitely not go there with you because that'd be some guy-code breaking cock-blocking.

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