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Dear Sugar
I am a very bubbly, outgoing person and the people I meet have been naturally attracted to me as a person. In the past, I never had trouble making friends. Recently my husband and I moved to a new city. I work full-time, am going back to school full-time and I am an avid jogger.

Although my life is busy, I miss having my friends around. Although they are only a phone call away, it is hard not having someone close to home to spend time with. I have a good friend at work, but outside of the office we don't get together much.

My hubby and I have friends that are "our" friends, but they are all men. How can I make my own friends with such a busy life? I really would really like to have at least one person that I could eventually call a best friend. Lonely Lydia


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Dear Lonely Lydia
Making new friends is sometimes difficult especially when you get older, but the good news is it is possible. One way to look at meeting new people is the same way you view dating; it takes trial and error to find the right match. Try making an effort to spend more time with your colleagues outside of work.

School is another great place to meet people so you could ask an acquaintance from class to grab some coffee during a break or get a drink after school. Since you are an avid jogger, you could join a gym as a way to network. Try to find a jogging buddy to spend a few hours with on the weekends who can teach you more about your new home.

Do your guy friends have wives or girlfriends you can create relationships with? Also, have you considered becoming more active in your community? Try going to your local bookstore and see if they have a book club you could join. The key is getting yourself out there so you are able to meet new people.

Friendships don't form overnight, but remember that with time, your acquaintances will love your outgoing bubbly self and you will have a few new pals. Good luck to you and to your husband. I have faith that just by reaching out in a few new ways, you will connect with someone who is just as outgoing as you are!

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