I know I'm always looking for ways to spice up the action in the bedroom, so here's a fun idea you can try out. It's called "your turn — my turn," and here's how it works.
- Choose two consecutive nights that you and your partner are available. If you want, you can even plan a two-night weekend getaway somewhere.
- Let it be your partner's turn first. That means for the entire night, they get to decide what you do to them and for them. Do they want you to make them dinner, and then have chocolate-covered strawberries and champagne in a bubble bath? Do they want a full body massage? Do they want you to dress up in a special, sexy outfit? Or do they want to choose certain sex positions they always wanted to try? It's totally up to your partner to decide — but you do have to make sure that whatever they're asking is respectful and not causing any pain or uncomfortable feelings.
- Then the next night, guess what? It's your turn. Do you want to go out to dinner and then come home and have your partner give you a 30-minute foot massage? Do you want to try using a new sex toy? Do you want to make love in the shower? Or maybe you want your lover to spend an hour kissing every single part of your body. It's totally up to you.
This "your turn — my turn" idea is great if you and your significant other have reached a boring plateau in your relationship. It'll bring back some of the fire that got you two together in the first place. Plus it gives you a chance to ask for things you might feel shy about otherwise. It's also a way to show your lover how much you appreciate and love them. Could you think of a better way to spend two nights?
— Additional reporting by Alexis Nordby