Fiance Talking to Ex

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My fiance and I are getting married in October. Last year in September, he found the sudden urge to email his ex girlfriend (we weren't engaged yet) and was being friendly and nice and was possibly seeing how she was doing. Why. . . I have no idea? He says he saw an article of her in a newspaper and it made him want to see how she was doing. Well, she finally emailed back since the email last September. In the email he told me she said she thinks of him a lot and was questioning whether he was happy or not.

My fiance is a very nice guy and overall we have a great relationship. I was the woman he dated after they had been broken up for 6 months or so and we've been together 5 years. I love him to death, however this ex has always bothered me her being in his life. I just don't trust her or maybe it's the fact that I may think there's something still there between them that he's not telling me.

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He always tells me he could have been with her again if he wanted but he didn't. He also gets really defensive when I bring her up and I ask him why he didn't explore his feelings for her more. He says he has no feelings for her, but my intuition is telling me something different. I don't want to marry a man that I will always have to think, was I second best or was he just settling or if he sees her, is something going to happen between them. I would much rather leave and let them be together than waste my life with him and her in the back of my mind. I want to think I am being too jealous or obsessive about the situation but I am heartbroken that maybe he could still have feelings for her and he's not telling me. Why else would he email her and her email back? What should I do? This is really breaking my heart because I love him so much and he says he loves me and there's no one else. Am I just getting cold feet?

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