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I broke with my last boyfriend almost a year ago. We were together for a long time, almost seven years. The last year we spent together, we weren't having sex. I was always asking for it, but he didn't seem interested. We ended up breaking up, due to other reasons like him wanting to spend time on his own. We continued to hang out (only as friends) until about a month ago. I haven't contacted him since, and neither has he. I feel like I need to move on, and this friends situation isn't helping, so that's why I haven't talked to him lately, he doesn't know that though.

So, I haven't had sex in two years, I'm 27. It was a major blow to my self esteem that my ex didn't want to have sex during the last year. I feel like the girl should always be wanted and that wasn't the case. The only chance I've got was last year at a wedding when I met someone, but nothing happened because I got too drunk. Sometimes I feel really sad that I'm alone. I miss everything, not only the sex, but having a relationship. 

I feel like such a loser sometimes. I started doing crossfit and it really improved my self esteem. But then I injured myself, and am now recovering, so there goes that. I don't know, sometimes I feel like I'll never meet anyone else, and that I'm good for nothing. I'm mostly happy and positive and have a lot of friends. But the thought of being a loser is always at the back of my head . . . I feel like my ex really messed me up. We were great and happy, but he stopped loving me, so I have always thought that I wasn't enough for him. 

What to do.

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