I've uncovered my best friends secret; she's been smoking pot and experimenting with other, harder drugs. Her parents know, but it doesn't really seem like they even care. I was over one day when she asked for $200 and they handed it to her. Could you imagine?!
I know this is self destructive behavior. What can I do to help her? It's beginning to make her act out, become distant and short tempered. I am really worried about her. Concerned Coretta
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Dear Concerned Coretta,
I don't blame you for being worried about your friend and drugs . Your friend should feel lucky to have you around. It doesn't seem like anyone is paying any attention to how serious and habit forming drugs can become.
I suggest that you talk to her. Explain your fears about her getting addicted and also how scared it makes you that her behaviors may affect your friendship. Try and ask her if anything has happened to her to make her start experimenting with drugs. Maybe there was an event or a revelation that she had and she needs help. Be prepared to listen and to offer your help.
Once you talk to her all you can do is wait to see if she stops using or not. If she continues, try to set a limit for yourself. How much energy can you possibly devote to someone who doesn't want your help? The desire to quit has got to come from her. Now that she knows you are there to support her, you can only hope that she'll come to you when she's ready.