Many of you admitted to enjoying talking dirty, but I'm sure there are just as many of you who have yet to give it a go. It's true that dirty talk done wrong can be fairly awkward, but when you do it right, it can be a total turn-on for both you and your man. So if you're ready to try something new, here's my crash course in talking dirty.
- Fortunately, dirty talk is more about attitude than what you're actually saying. So no matter what you say, just make sure you use your tone of voice to really sell it.
- Try reading some erotica beforehand. Not only will it get you in the mood, but it might just give you something to talk about.
- If you're noisy in the bedroom, use that sound to your advantage. Moans and gasps can give way to the most natural dirty talk!
- Take baby steps. Start by throwing in a few sexual and arousing words during your usual lovemaking routine, and as you get more comfortable, amp it up. The more you get into it, the more he will, too.
- If you're shy at first, don't feel like you have to shout; it's just as sexy to whisper into his ears.
- Though I'm positive your man is going to be more than excited once he hears your dirty talk, if you want to get him more directly involved, start by asking him questions. He's sure to offer his own sexy response.
- Once you've gotten more comfortable, use dirty talk as a way of expressing your wants and needs in the heat of the moment. It's a great way to open communication in bed without it getting awkward or too technical.
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For those dirty-talk veterans out there, what are your tips for the newbies?
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Even after being in a relationship for 5 and a half years, it's still hard for me to do it! Sometimes it comes naturally, like when it's hot and heavy or I'm just really drunk. If I'm trying to get a phone sex thing going, I'll have him start it out first, have him ask the questions, as the list above suggested. Or talk about a real situation that's happened before, then you can create new fantasies.
Don't be too scurred to try it out! Your boyfriend will appreciate it and think you're the coolest girlfriend ever.
1I'm more of a screamer. He seems to like that
2Say things you are comfortable saying (it helps to lower your voice and do a sexy whisper, rather than use your regular voice!) and then work in words that he seems to like. Men do seem to have several buzzwords.
3am I the only one giggling my @ss off right now??
4I'm like Jude C ... and my guy seems to enjoy it too.
I'm never tried "dirty talk" and not sure if I will soon... not really me.
"Men do seem to have several buzzwords."
5I'm not sure I know what those are ... lol!
hmmm....i do have somewhat of a hard time talking dirty...but dh will tell me i have to ask for it...and sometimes i just really want it...but he tells me how to ask...and i have to say it his way...and if i do so....
i'm very happy and so is he. but it usually takes a few
trys for me to actually say it. by that time time i'm red in the face and trying so hard not to laugh and kill the mood, but i end up laughing anyways...and then stop within 2secs
anyways..
6haha I think I do a good job of just purring my pleasure in his ear to load moans. I just wish I knew how to encourage a man to do it more
7{Joey from Friends}Grandma's chicken salad...{/Joey}
8strangely what helped me be able to do this was having phone sex. cause, obviously you are describing things so you have to be a lil nasty. it made being face to face easier cause if you are trying to multitask and think of creative, sexy things to say on the phone--being in person and doing it for real is a breeze
9I am not so much of a talker but def a listener!
10my man will throw out random stuff in the heat of the moment that he would never say in real life
11like he used the C word the other day and i was like, oh god! but it's pretty sweet, and so every once and awhile i'll throw something out, but not as a general rule.
what is the C word?
12more specifically, what do you say or like to be said to you? I don't even know where to begin!
13
well tomatoshirt...i'd have to think it would either be c*ck or c*nt..but i could be
wrong....and i've been wrong a lot..lol
14buzzwords include but are not limited to: c*ck, p*ssy, wet, etc. etc.
15Oh god, I won't make anyone's eyes bleed on here.. but I'll at least help you out a l i t t l e Jmartens..
...just start with little stuff like telling him where to touch you or things that you want/like. Tell him what you like to do to him while you're about to do it. You can say silly things like - fk my tits with your d*ck, do you like that baby?, rub my a$$/tits/where-ever while you're fk'n me, where do you want to cummm? ..and if he makes a modest suggestion make a better one.
Sometimes just a simple moan of "oh ssssshhhh!t" can do the trick or "holy sh!t I love riding on your d!ck". Depending on how vulgar you two are you can mix up the words to be 'prettier' or trashier. Get creative with it. You can say those things to him very soft and sweet or wild and crazy. Once you start talking more he will probably start also.
16oh....LOL .... i feel so innocent all of the sudden
17im so excited to try some of the things yall are saying lol some things i say that he likes is fk me baby.. harder.. faster.. etc.
18i like to tell him to suck my tits and he will get hard so fast if i tell him i want him to get me wet or that im already sooo wet
and to get things started i usually will whisper somthing in his ear like i wana fk u so bad baby or i want u to fk me so hard right now or i wana sit on ur fat dck i cld go on lol im pretty kinky hehe ;p
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