i don't think many people want to hear the words "i'm just not into you" so i guess i'd rather have him slowly disappear into the land of the lost men.

Totally get dumped. I hate when guys play those games on you to make YOU try and break up with THEM!
Grow up and tell me the truth ok? I am a big gilr and I will handle it (in front of you haha).

DUMPED!!
the WORST feeling ever is when someone ignores you and YOU KNOW THEY ARE DOING IT!!!!... its one of my BIGGEST EERRRKKKSSS!! haha.. it drives me BONKERS!!... so im going to have to say dumped, then you know its over, your not left wondering!

It's "latter" not "ladder".

And i'd prefer a good old fashioned dumping. Both suck, but i'd rather know what's up than be guessing about what happened.

Ladder?

I'd take the dumping.

I think it is better to know the truth and would take the dumping but I have to admit I have been the one to sometimes just stop communicating when I am not into someone.

I'd totally rather be dumped. I can't stand people who just try to slowly remove themselves from your life! I think it's kinda immature, and definitely a sign that the guy is not worth your time.

It is better to know the truth than to be ignored. Let me know, don't be immature and take the easy way out.

Ha ha, the ladder, as in...you'd take the high road? Just kidding.

Yeah I am fine without a phone call. That sends the message. I never get why girls freak out and get pissed when a new guy doesn't call. Not every date you go on will work out. That's just how it goes--date more people and you'll find the one you really like that will actually call.

i think it depends. if u go out on one date while it sucks sometimes not having any contact helps one to just get over it. if ther is a realtionship or even if you are dating regularly for a few weeks -- yes its better to be dumped.

"I'd take the ladder"

If I had a choice between getting dumped or ignored, I'd opt for a ladder also. At least it's useful around the house...

But seriously, I'd absolutely, unequivocally want to get dumped. I wouldn't want to spend even a week waiting for a call that wasn't going to come.

I've had experience in both situations. As much as it hurts to hear, I'd rather get dumped. Being ignored is painful and it makes them a coward. A real man has the 'balls' to tell you to your face.

Definitely better to get dumped.

Get dumped. Just freaking end it already and let me go on my merry way.

Much better to get dumped, I think. A simple "This isn't going to work out" should suffice. I've been ignored and for some reason it feels far more painful to me than just a straight-up, honest answer.

Dumped. I'm big on honesty, just tell me why you don't want to be together.

But pssst... It's "I'll take the latter," not ladder.

dumped for sure.

My friend has been ignored by 2 different guys! she dated each of them (different years) for more than 6 months! and they just stopped calling. that is just so evil - when she called one back he was like " well...you know how it is."

I hate not knowing what's going on with another person. I especially hate it when they ignore me or don't call because they know I'll be upset.

I'd much rather be dumped. At least then I'll know who I'm dealing with, or not dealing with.

My mistake on latter... thanks for the call out!
-DearSugar

Definitely ignored. It's obvious why someone wouldn't call, why on earth do you want to hear someone say I don't want to see you again? To me that would just be needless embarrassment & humiliation.

I'd definitely rather get dumped. I hate when people play games, if you don't want to be with me then "gets da steppin" lol.

I consider ignored and dumping the same thing.

If I hadn't talked to someone after a significant amount of time, the relationship is over. I never did the "so what's up" call -- his not calling is what's up and he can go eff himself.(!)

Just one more reason to love my SO, we speak to each other several times a day and always have.

I'd rather get dumped. One of the reasons being that when the guy ignores you it can either mean he is not into you or something happened to him. So definitely get dumped. Be straight with me, otherwise you'll be too much of a coward for me any way.

The girl in the pictures facial expression is annoying me. I have PMS though so maybe that is why...

Dumped.

dumped!

Just be straight up and let me know what's going on. I think disappearing acts are for cowards.

Here's the ugly truth. i would much rather have a guy call me and say I'm sorry I'm just not interested than say he'll call an never hear from him again. I'm a much more up front person than a lot of people I know and I hate having to sit around and wonder what went wrong.

The worst thing in the world is indefiniteness. Tell me "yes"? Great! Tell me "no"? I'll live. But don't you ever force me to think "maybe".

I'd rather be told it is not going to work than be ignored. Being ignored shows disrespect and is immature.

Depends on how into him I was... if I wasn't really into it, it's easier for both of us to take the "ignored" route... but if one of us was into it, it's better to go the "dumped" route.

Dumped. But in all reality, when a guy doesn't call you for a week or two after the date, it's safe to say that he's not interested, and heck no, I'm not calling

i prefer someone to be open and honest. it's pretty cowardly to just not call.

Funny, popgoestheworld!

ignored with out a doubt. bc its like he didnt even have the balls to admit to you that it wasn't working. plus if its not completly put out there..i mite think there is a chance to get back

I think it is much better to hear straight from the guy's mouth what he thinks. This clarifies everything. As women, oftentimes, we try to rationalize things, like, "Oh, well, he probably is busy and was too tired to call." I find that girls will often ruminate over this and try to see the guy in the rosier light. So just knowing the plain truth will allow for someone to get over the situation quicker and not hold onto something that isn't there.

P.S. I totally agree with brdwaystarlett. Being uncertain is worse than being unloved.

I rather get the call that they weren't into me. Its worse to just be left wondering. I know because its happened to me before.

Dumped! As much as it may hurt, I'd rather know the truth and have the person be straightforward with me.

You shouldn't have to try too hard to get someone's attention...if they like you, they like you. If they don't call, just move on.

dumped! truth is the best

dumped. i HATE being ignored.

OH MY GOD>>> DUMP ME ALREADY! I wont dump you if your ignoring me b/c then it has no impact whatsoever b/c its not like they would even care......... I hate being ignored... drives me f*cking insane......

DUMPED. At least getting dumped gives you some closure whereas suddenly being ignored leaves you with your own assumptions...

I was just thinking about this topic not long ago. The sad sad thing is that I've never, ever been dumped. I've been ignored (at least more than five times). It's really a sad realization to be made to feel like I don't deserve the respect of an upfront answer. Because on the flip side- I've always been upfront with guys I have no interest in (if we went out on a date).

Dang, dating is a hardcore sport where you often need thick skin...

Honestly, we wouldn't like to be told, "i'm just not into you, bye." phone call/text/in person.

But i rather my feelings be hurt briefly, because then, i can stop waiting for your call, or planning the actual time (trying not to seem like a bugga-boo) to call again.

that is the worst feeling in the world.

tell me that you don't wanna talk anymore.

give me the satisfaction of calling you a jacka*s vs. double checking for missed calls that don't exist.

i've had male friends who say they don't like the confrontation.

bullc*m!

we live in the age of email and text message; you don't even have to see the gal you're dumping.

if you're gonna be an a*shole i rather it ATLEAST come through a text message.

"we r done" , "nice knowin ya" , "i got back with my ex"

at least the latter gives you closure . . .

dumped!! i hate being ignored!!

If it's just one date, while I would prefer the guy just call me and say "it's not happening," I think it's acceptable if he just chooses not to call. HOWEVER, if it is after a second date, he needs to man up and be honest and not string you along. If it's a third date and he doesn't call, he's a straight up coward, and selfish to boot. It's way more hurtful when someone just disappears.

would always always rather hear "i'm not into you" right away than be left to wonder for a week or more if he's ever going to call. i went on this date with this one guy - so nice and cute. he called me 2 days later and told me he wasn't over his ex and couldn't date anyone. he was probably totally lying and just didn't like me, but i didn't care. he'll always have a warm spot in my heart for having the balls to call me and tell me what was up instead of leaving me to wonder what happened. i was bummed for about 24 hours and then i got over it. MUCH preferred to that week long waiting game of "is he gonna call? why hasn't he called? what's wrong with me, wah!"

A first date is always a risk, escpecially if it's someone you just met. If it's not vibing and it's been a week and he hasn't called, usually I would take the hint even though it might hurt. But if I really felt there was a chance, I might leave a message to meet up again. No answer after that? I get it. I'm not gonna chase a guy who clearly isn't up to it.

oh, thank god! after reading the responses here i know i am not totally crazy or the only one who REALLY HATES being ignored, even by someone i have only known for a few weeks. (i was ready to accept that i just have abandonment issues since i'm adopted, LOL) i haven't had much luck meeting guys in my small town, and when my sister mentioned there were available men MY AGE (who'da thunk it LOL) on myspace i set up my profile. don't know if it's the guys who frequent that place or what, but i have been on dates with three guys...i spoke to the first guy for about 7 hours by phone before the first date. afterward, he acted like he was totally falling for me and i tried being practical and told him we needed to date other people. he talked to me a few more days just on myspace then TOTALLY froze me out and we have never spoken again. date #2 used a fake call from one of his kids during dinner to get him out of the movie (figured it out in hindsight..i am totally gullible and believe everyone at the time! LOL) but, without prompting from me, INSISTED he would call me the next day. didn't. that was fine. he then proceeded to, yes, IGNORE me after that on myspace. date #3 may have just been a player, but he told me i was awesome, gorgeous, ETC and after two dates said he would be calling me to make plans thursday. yep, thursday was four days ago and have never heard from him. (and there is NO sex and barely any kissing involved in all cases!!)

the aggravating part of all this is that they are your friends on myspace, so they continue logging in every day and you are VERY MUCH AWARE that you are being ignored. and none of these three guys even removed me from their friends list. and i just want to say on my behalf that i am no stalker. i had all their phone #s and didn't call once. neither do i message them in any desparate way. i don't want to be anywhere i am not wanted! is it wrong to want a friggin courtesy email sent to me: "things are not going to work out, nice meeting you", press send? what is wrong with people that they can't have common courtesy for their fellow human beings? thanks so much for listening, friends..had to get that off my chest!! i lost my insurance so i cannot afford therapy right now.. LOL

I think it depends on how long I've known the guy. If we just met and he doesn't call, or we've been out once and doesn't call, i might be a little irritated for a day or so, but then that's it. I wouldn't want to have them tell me they don't like me, or sent me a text/email or something!

If we've been dating a bit, as painful as it might be, I think I'd prefer the dumping to them suddenly disappearing. As long as they don't tell me that they want to end it because I'm so great that they don't want me to get hurt, that's the lamest thing ever!