Do Tell: Where Does the Pressure in Your Life Come From?

September 7, 2008

I’ve found that pressure either makes people work 10 times harder, or it stresses them out to the point where they can’t do anything at all. In either case, substantial pressure can be overwhelming and hard to avoid.

To make matters worse, pressure has no boundaries; it can enter your personal life just as easily as your professional one, and often comes from the people closest to you. So tell me, where does the pressure in your life come from?

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valancyjane 4 years 36 weeks

Technically, I guess most of my pressure comes from within. But the areas in which I feel pressure are work and my marriage. Turns out being cranky and stressed is not good for marriages - who knew?

Le Luxe 4 years 36 weeks

Myself ;)

RaCheer 4 years 36 weeks

My parents!!! I'm the only child of pretty conservative parents...

ohkate 4 years 36 weeks

usually from family or finances. both are a pain in my ass and something I'd rather pretend weren't a problem. I'm slowing learning to deal with one of them...still ignoring the other ): go ahead and guess which is which.

ladychaos 4 years 36 weeks

My family. I love them, but sometimes they are the most unbearable people. And why they stress me despite others is because they're always going to be there, and I can't pick and choose them like friends...

agnt99 4 years 36 weeks

MONEY. Or the lack thereof. And the housing market. I owned a house with my exhusband and he didn't make the payments, I tried to handle TWO mortgages and raise my daughter before we could finally sell in this depressed market. End result, my credit score is in the toilet, and I filed bankruptcy just this Friday. My daughter is in college now and I cannot even cosign for her student loans. I feel like an **cked up, worthless mom. We had to practically sell our souls to cranky old grampa to get him to cosign. Thank God I have a steady paycheck, but it is never enough...

LadyLiLa83 4 years 36 weeks

WORK! I was working at a place that I liked, and then I lost that job because of something I didn't even do wrong. It stressed me out so much because we had no money for rent, it got to the point where I was having panic attacks and a whole slew of other physical problems. They got better when I started my new job, but lately my current job has been stressing me out so guess what's started up again? Ugh.

Marci 4 years 36 weeks

Work. My job is such a sore point in my life right now. It's erratic which, in turn, makes ME erratic. Fortunately, I have a fantastic homelife that gives me some balance, but the job needs to go. I'm on the hunt for something new.

Shi Rox 4 years 36 weeks

work. I'm still on orientation and I'm already doubting how I'll be able to handle all this when I'm on my own. I also think it stems from me being on hard on myself all the time and expecting waaay too much of myself.

austerity 4 years 36 weeks

lickety split ~ I am sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time. Are there any support groups for parents of autistic kids in your area? I'm probably sounding like Dr. Phil now, but those can really be helpful. My mother went through emotions similar to yours because I have been chronically ill from age four (and still am), and I know how much she would have appreciated such a support group.

Annie0818 4 years 36 weeks

Internally and people from the past.

Marseeah 4 years 36 weeks

In the next 8 days, I will close on my first house, move, and send my husband to Paris for three months to do something relatively dangerous. I'd say my stress comes from all of that.

g1amourpuss 4 years 36 weeks

Raising my daughter is stressful sometimes. I'm not b!tching about her by any means! But it's the most stressful part of my life. That and my husband can be (more) temperamental (than me). And worrying about money. (We have money, but only because I'm constantly shifting things around to make sure we're making ends meet.) It will all get easier eventually though. We're new to all of this. Work can be stressful about maybe half the the time during the week.. but I try not to let it get to me because my family is more important than work to me.

Sugarblonde 4 years 36 weeks

Well I'm 24 - -So professionally I'm working my butt off to prove myself & move up. That has meant many hours, etc, etc. -I'm getting my MBA.. which hasn't been that easy either. Getting below a C in the program & failing isn't an option. -My ex/boyfriend wanted me to move in with him.. -Did I mention I'm not positive what I want to do with my life yet? I guess every single one could be considered external & intenal pressures.

DecemberBaby 4 years 36 weeks

MY ENTIRE FAMILY! I just feel like every time I talk to them their saying something or assuming I can do much more than I can. It's like reality doesn't exist to them. They expect and expect from me but if someone else were to come in and see things as they really are they wouldn't ask all these things of me! And especially my mother there are no options with her! It's what she wants and what she thinks. It's her way or the high way! Who cares what I want or anything! Ugh!

GlowingMoon 4 years 36 weeks

These days, the most damaging pressure comes from me. Like many posters, I can be really hard on myself, and be my own harshest critic. I could be my own worse enemy in this regard. But thankfully, I am aware of it. I learn to tone it down, and be fair to myself. It's challenging, but I think in the long run, it's healthier for me to have a more softened attitude towards myself.

rabidmoon 4 years 36 weeks

Mostly myself but a lot of it is a very demanding job where I am at a high pace the whole time, and responsible for an ever-widening circle of tasks...on the one hand I have responsibility and independence...on the other hand I have a lot riding on every day, and its very easy to make mistakes so I feel a lot of pressure to be 100% right, 100% of the time, and of course that is not a possible achievement. Compounding this is the fact that I am the breadwinner at the moment, and the "chef", trying to refurnish a flat from the bottom-up (which was not a lot of fun while the dollar was getting battered, as I am paid in dollars!)...and adjust to a new country and language all at the same time. I just try to keep a focus on the positive, and am learning to make the most of days off, and strive to manage my time wisely. My boyfriend is fab at making sure to ask "can I help" or "anything I can do?", and I really appreciate that as well.

Shopaholichunny 4 years 36 weeks

College, Work, "Finding myself and deciding what I want to do with my life, my family and my parents. They pay everything for me including my college so ALOT of my stress comes from them. They always push me to do the best I can, to get good grades and to be independent (eventually) from them. Ughhh.

lickety split 4 years 36 weeks

autism. my oldest child's autism has changed every single thing about our family. how other people look at us, how we view ourselves, where our resources go (money, time, emotion). since hers is a very severe form she will require life long round the clock care and she has a normal life expectancy. so i have the stress of what will become of her after i am gone. feels like stress into the grave sometimes. there is no solution and no amout of time or money can ever be enough to "fix" this.

gemsera 4 years 36 weeks

internally mostly, and some from my dad...

austerity 4 years 36 weeks

For me, it's internal. I'm in a stage of my life where I want to excel professionally, and I want that real bad. I strive for excellence, but sometimes I get the feeling I'm not capable or that I will disappoint myself...then I feel tense, pressurized and down...

HeidiMD 4 years 36 weeks

Work, work, work, work. I love my job, but there is so much pressure (and rightly so) to get it perfect every single time. However, I am one of those people who thrives of pressure, so it doesn't bother me much. My personal life is sort of my sanctuary, though; I don't remember the last time I felt stressed about something pertaining to my relationship.

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