Do Tell: Is There Something You Wish You Could Take Back?

April 7, 2009

When you're stressed out, tired, angry or sad, it's not uncommon to lash out at someone you love and say things you don't mean, but those words hurt even if they're said in the heat of the moment. I've definitely been guilty of this crime a few times before so if this sounds familiar to you too, tell me, is there something you wish you could take back that you said in a fit of rage?

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crazycow 4 years

ya going home with a guy after a night out, knowing he wouldnt call the next day or ever!!(previous experience with said guy!)

sparklestar 4 years

Nope! Everything that has happened has shaped who I am now. =)

WeTheLiving 4 years

I know there were some things when I was younger. Unfortunately you can say the worst things to the people you love the most because you know their weak spots. Thankfully I realized awhile back that it's not worth it to say something you know you won't be able to take back, even when you are really angry, cuz that regret will eat at you. So now I'm able to stop myself.

hills 4 years

i think everyone has probably said something they regret in their lives and obviously as i experience more and grow up i learn to hold my tongue and calm it down a bit, i always think about what iv'e said and if i am sorry i will say it.

sham28 4 years

Anyway formal answer to the question is "Not really, because I'm too busy pretending like I'm not that angry while trying to chip away at the arguee's defense."

sham28 4 years

I'm horribly passive aggressive, so I'll make statements in a sarcastic voice, or use a question- inflection, like "I thought I was doing really well with that but I guess I'll try harder?" I leave myself the loophole of "that's not what I meant" by using ambiguous language or facial expressions. I'm a pain in the A to argue with, I know.

margokhal 4 years

Nope, I don't regret things I've said or how I've said them, because by the time you've gotten me into that raging point, I'm seriously ticked off with at least one justifiable reason. Some people say that there's no reason for lashing out, but sometimes there's just no other way to get the point across after you've tried everything else.

popgoestheworld 4 years

I can't really think of any recent situations. There have been times when I'm soooo close. Sometimes I wish I could just go off. But the consequences would be too much as I value the people who are close to me and wouldn't want to lose their love and/or friendship.

merie33 4 years

No doubt, I've said some pretty mean things. I may have been angry, and said them harsher than needed, but generally speaking, anything that comes out of my mouth is something that I feel I need to say. So while I've never regretted WHAT I've said, I may have regretted HOW I've said it.

candace87 4 years

I've said some very mean things. I wish I could take a lot of them back. But I can't, and what's done is done.. I really need to be more careful with what I say.

austerity 4 years

EvilDorkGirl: Ditto on the PMDD. And I too, used to take it out on my ex. Yes, I've said some mean things in the past especially to my mother. I do feel bad...but so has she, and she has never given me a sincere apology! Yeah, I guess it's part of the relationships with the people who are closest to you.

Spectra 4 years

Oh, I know I've said a few things when I was mad that I didn't mean. Mostly to my mother, who has also said some horrific things to me when SHE was mad. I don't think I've ever said anything really hateful to my husband, but I've come close sometimes. It's just really hard to be hateful to him because he's such an easy person to love. For the most part, I do try to be careful about what I say to whom because you can really do some damage with what you say.

EvilDorkGirl 4 years

Sparklepants, I strongly disagree when you said that you mean what you say, even when you're angry. I think many mental health professionals would disagree as well. It's great that you have the self-control to not say mean things when you're angry, but I can assure you that there is stuff that has flown out of my mouth and I've immediately thought, "Why did I say that? I don't really think that!"

EvilDorkGirl 4 years

Of course! I think everybody does, but it gets really bad when PMDD rears its ugly head. Unfortunately my husband gets the brunt of it, but now that I'm treating my PMDD it's gotten a whole lot better. Thankfully he's a very patient, loving guy who is very good at forgiving.

sparklepants 4 years

after being with my ex-husband and realizing the damage a person can do when they are mad, i am extremely careful to not say things i don't mean. i told him time and time again that once it's said, you can't unsay it and i won't forget you said it. i can forgive, but i'll remember the hateful remarks and always wonder if you really did mean them. he never quite got that concept which is one of the reasons we split. if you don't mean it, don't say it. i think people blame the awful things they say on anger and lashing out. obviously, you felt that way and are taking this opportunity to say it b/c you were just "angry and didn't mean it". yes you did. you didn't just make something up out of thin air, you were already thinking it. i think "i'm sorry, i was angry and lashing out" is a lame excuse for saying something mean and getting away with it.

awkwardturtle 4 years

Yup. I all for living life without any regrets but there are a few instances I wish I could take back.

pharm_chick 4 years

yeah, when i lashed out at my hubby in front of people (his fam!! so mortifying). will never do that again.

GScott86 4 years

The last 4 years of my life.

KadBunny 4 years

I have said some pretty damned horrible things but I'm very patient so I know that whatever came out of my mouth was without a doubt provoked to death. So no.

GlowingMoon 4 years

Sure. And I learned my lesson.

vmruby 4 years

No..... I try to tread carefully and watch what comes out of my mouth when I'm angry.

CaterpillarGirl 4 years

Oh I have lashed out before, to my sisters growing up, at my parents during thier divorce, to some friends during stressful times, but I always apologized afterwords. Its human nature to lash out sometimes, but you should always backtrack and calm down and talk it out.

Hiding55 4 years

Nothing I can remember. I'm very careful about what I say when I am angry so whatever I say I mean.

Sun_Sun 4 years

im really good at controlling what comes out of my mouth. im always preaching about that to my husband. but several years ago i lashed out at my mom. i still feel terrible. she didnt deserve it.

aimeeb 4 years

I never do or say anything that horrible so I'll say no.

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