Do Tell: How Long Does It Take You to Fall in Love?

November 19, 2009

According to new research, it's usually a man who says, "I love you" first. Yes, somebody actually studied this. The researchers reasoned that in general women have a more realistic view of relationships, and are thus, less likely to get carried away early on. On average, it takes a man about seven months to fall in love, while it takes cautious women a whole eight months. If you've ever been in love, how long did it take before you knew it?

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2 years

My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months. He said he loved me after about two weeks-- the nerve! Six months later, we're questioning whether it's "meant to be," but we couldn't imagine life without each other. I'm still not entirely sure if we're even in love, but he's the only thing keeping me from giving up hope.

2 years

I know it took us a short time, but i took us two months when we knew we were in love and now we have been together over seven months and going on 8 and we are still in love! I'm loving the love!

2 years

I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now i feel like he loves me but he hasn't said it. I think i love him, and want to tell him, but maybe i should wait until he says it first.

2 years

well my brother and his girlfriend been going out for 4 months and on the second month there were already in love is this possible for them too be in love this quick?

2 years

1 month!

3 years

I am still not sure after 5 years! He says it (took him a year or so). However we were friends for anout 10 years before we got together in a bit of a rebound relationship. I came from a difficult relationship though (a 4 year one where we were in love within a month and believed we were soul mates) and so I have issues. maybe it will happen, maybe it wont. I heard a man say it took 30 years to really believe he loved his wife!

sparklestar 3 years

I was the one who said it first because my boyfriend is a chicken. We KNEW when we got together that we were in love (we've been friends over 3 years) but it was me who had to make the first move. ;pI told him after 3 months because I COULDN'T WAIT ANY LONGER.

sparklestar 3 years

I was the one who said it first because my boyfriend is a chicken. We KNEW when we got together that we were in love (we've been friends over 3 years) but it was me who had to make the first move. ;p I told him after 3 months because I COULDN'T WAIT ANY LONGER.

luna08 3 years

weird question!

luna08 3 years

weird question!

Miss Senorita 3 years

I'm with you tayrose it took me sometime too.

staple salad 3 years

I think my boyfriend and I said it within the first couple weeks.And we've said it to each other every day since for almost two years now.

staple salad 3 years

I think my boyfriend and I said it within the first couple weeks. And we've said it to each other every day since for almost two years now.

Autumns_Elegy 3 years

I knew after about a month, but I let him say it first. Took him about six months. :)

tlsgirl 3 years

It depends. Only took me about 6 weeks with my current partner, but it's taken longer.

oohsexypenguin 3 years

In both of my serious relationships (my ex and my husband), they both said "I love you" after two months of dating. With my ex, I said it back but didn't really feel that way until maybe a month later; with my husband, I said it back and meant every word.

karjofas86 3 years

we met and actually knew what we felt for each other.. but we didnt want to rush in so we waited until a month or so.. but was mutual.. he said that he wanted to say it from day one, so was i! and we have been together for 2 years now!

lauraxtc 3 years

Depends. My last relationship, like 6 months. The man I am with now, about 2 months.

lauraxtc 3 years

Depends.My last relationship, like 6 months. The man I am with now, about 2 months.

zawackirz 3 years

My boyfriend said I love you a couple months after we met!! lol He did say it first!

tayrose 3 years

One year. Woahh it took me so long compared to everyone else haha.

AlexisSF 3 years

i knew after a month

AlexisSF 3 years

i knew after a month

KadBunny 3 years

Same story as Chrstine. :) My boyfriend and I were friends and in love way before we even considered dating, but when the time was right it took us about 3 seconds to fess up. It's been 3 months and 3 years! In general though I tend to fall in love pretty easily.

KadBunny 3 years

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