Do Tell: How Can You Tell If a Guy Is Boyfriend Material?

November 2, 2008

I've been in the dating world for quite some time and although it's fun to get to know new people, I'm more interested in finding a special someone. There are definitely some weirdos out there, but I can usually tell within a few hours of meeting a guy whether or not he's boyfriend material. If the conversation flows easily, if he shows he cares by listening when I talk, if there's good chemistry and if he can make me laugh, I'm inclined to think there's potential there!

But what about you? What qualities do you look for in a guy when figuring out if he's boyfriend material?

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4 years 1 week

This is b.s. Girls always say they want all these qualities but fall for ass****.

genesisrocks 4 years 19 weeks

if hes nice to animals. weird i know but how a guy treats animals is a good indicator of how he'll treat you when you get past that point in your relationship when you always try to impress each other

rellicDragon 4 years 23 weeks

If I have a spark ... that intial spark ...

fairyqueen0 4 years 25 weeks

i HATED my boyfriend when i first met him, but it was only really when i went out with him, that i started to like him. leason? don't always go with first impressions. particularly if you're drunk.

Sweetthang336 4 years 27 weeks

I think you just got to go with you gutt feeling, TALK it out first show both of you are on the same page and have an understanding.

bluesteyes 4 years 28 weeks

And up until now I still wouldn't know what to tell my daughters (i don't have any but if I do) what to look for? What can you say to them? They must figure that one out themselves.

bluesteyes 4 years 28 weeks

Oh my god! a huge list, i would say if he sees someone needing help and he goes out of his way to do something about it, I would consider a hot date but if he is one of those types who say it ain't my problem, sorry I'm out of there!

baybelle 4 years 28 weeks

mesayme that was hilarious!! When I was looking for a boyfriend, I had this huge list of ways I absolutely wanted him to be and then I met my (now) husband and he is (almost) none of those things. Come to think of it, my ex WAS all those things and THAT didn't work out so maybe one should throw out the lists and go with the flow?

baybelle 4 years 28 weeks

Muirnea 4 years 28 weeks

Mesayme....AAAAAHAHAHAHHAHA! :) My list is totally 5 times that long. :-P :)

Mesayme 4 years 28 weeks

Well, let me just put in my Molding Clay order in case one of you Sugas knows this guy then! And if I don't find my perfect man...DDL I'l hold YOU PERSONALLY responsible ;) He has to share my tastes in music. He has to be active but not a gym rat. (Preferably tennis or golf) He has to believe in God and Jesus. (because I do) He has to have a creative sense of humor...telling jokes just don't get it. He wouldn't watch much television. He loves action movies and hates sappy chick flicks. He only plays video games with the boys. He probably plays at least one instrument (no horns, cause I hate 'em) He's willing to eat meat only 3 times a week, fish twice and no pork. He never smokes. He hardly ever drinks. His idea of a party has no less than 4 relatives present. His idea of a great vacation is a cabin in the any mountains not on the celebrity brochure. Speaking of celebrities, he agrees they are mostly full of s*. His favorite color is blue. His favorite car is a Mustang but he drives an SUV. He works with his hands and using mostly his mind. He thinks I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen despite my imperfections. And he stands around the corner and peeks early on Saturday mornings while I stir pancake batter...because he likes to see me get 'jiggy'. And he is the most handsome man I've ever see until he pisses me off. His favorite TV show of all time is Sanford and Son. His favorite movie is Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom. He's very clean except on Saturday night because he refuses to shower if he's not going anywhere. He'd rather my cooking to any restaurant. Everyone thinks he's tough but I don't. He has a big smile and a larger laugh. Boxer briefs. Sneakers or lace up loafers. (size 12 or larger) Levis Nike He's taller than me. He hates to fuss with his hair. He's an early riser who wishes he could sleep late. He loooooves a good pillow. Hates hotels!! And his favorite meal of any day of the week...MY fried chicken, macaroni and cheese and garlicky baby whole green beans!!!!! He would never cheat. And he'd never lie about cheating! See this lump of clay??.... send him to me USPS. (because he thinks the others are too expensive.) There's more...but who has the time, I need to warm up my hands for all that MOLDING!!! :ROTFL:

Jude C 4 years 28 weeks

Also, he can't be racist, sexist, at any time refer to a desire to own as many weapons as possible, a hunter, or addicted to mindless sitcoms.And he has to be funny.And love the Daily Show.And have read at least a few of my favorite authors.And be the fiance I have now :)

Jude C 4 years 28 weeks

Also, he can't be racist, sexist, at any time refer to a desire to own as many weapons as possible, a hunter, or addicted to mindless sitcoms. And he has to be funny. And love the Daily Show. And have read at least a few of my favorite authors. And be the fiance I have now :)

Jude C 4 years 28 weeks

Intelligence, respectfulness, sincerity, and interests other than getting wasted and partying top the list for me.

pink-elephant 4 years 28 weeks

I agree with all of yours, In addition, for me, I think a guy has to be real and genuine. not arrogant or douche-y. Complete turn-off!

Muirnea 4 years 28 weeks

At DDL: Putting time and energy into a relationship and "...guys are very flexible so you can pretty much mold a guy into being whatever kind of guy you want", are TOTALLY different things. My bf and I have "kinks" just like everyone else and we work through them very well. But he is who he is, and I don't want or need to change that. Working through things and changing little things here and there are NOT the same thing as molding a person into someone you want them to be. If anyone is willing to change that much of their personality for you, then they don't have any self esteem or confidence...they are a doormat waiting for you to control their life. Who wants a guy like that?!?! not me. And yes, actually I did meet my bf online, and he is PERFECT for me. No changes necessary.

Muirnea 4 years 28 weeks

bigestivediscuit 4 years 28 weeks

HAHAHA bluesteyes no ... though they go out to drink a LOT and I'm often invited. However I only sip Coke since I know my limits. No, this was like sometime last year when I had an awful tummy bug. I took care of him when he had food poisoning last year though - and THAT WAS DISGUSTING - so I really think we're in it for the long haul. :)

bluesteyes 4 years 28 weeks

:) well I hope that wasn't at the welcome party at your boyfriend's new workplace digestivebiscuit, lol

bluesteyes 4 years 28 weeks

:) well I hope that wasn't at the welcome party at your boyfriend's new workplace digestivebiscuit, lol

bigestivediscuit 4 years 28 weeks

When he held my hair back while I puked for about an hour at 2 a.m. from stomach flu. That was love, yo. But yeah, chemistry is important too. :D

macchiatolove 4 years 28 weeks

yes, manners is a huge one for me! I would rate boyfriend material by amount of effort - if he's not courteous or well dressed on the first date, he's unlikely to get better as the relationship goes on. I also agree with iamangie... how he treats random strangers, people who are in service positions or that he has power over - how he treats them is a really good indicator of how he might be expected to treat you.

macchiatolove 4 years 28 weeks

yes, manners is a huge one for me! I would rate boyfriend material by amount of effort - if he's not courteous or well dressed on the first date, he's unlikely to get better as the relationship goes on.I also agree with iamangie... how he treats random strangers, people who are in service positions or that he has power over - how he treats them is a really good indicator of how he might be expected to treat you.

wildflower666 4 years 28 weeks

when he doesnt hit you and goes telling his family then threaten kill you cause misunderstanding i hit first really its self defense.