Do Tell: Does Your Significant Other Know When You're Upset?

January 25, 2008

When you spend a lot of time with your significant other, it's easy for him or her to know the ins and outs of your personality and what it is that makes you tick. Often times one partner can end up knowing the other better than they know themselves.

Body language is a very powerful way to communicate, especially when you're upset about something. I'm always shocked when the people I'm closest with know there's something wrong even when I don't vocalize it. Has that ever happened to you? Ladies, do tell, does your significant other know when you're mad or sad before you even tell him?

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northern_lass 5 years 16 weeks

My boyfriend almost always knows when I am upset about something. But I'm pretty good at reading him, too. I think it makes it easier to start talking about what's bothering us when the other notices that something is wrong. It seems to "break the ice" as well as signal that we care and want to know what's wrong.

BeachBarbie 5 years 16 weeks

Yes, I would say most of the time he knows...because, I'm a "open book" like Masquerade. lol (hey, MA :) ) But, if I'm upset over something that doesn't involve my husband, I don't let him notice it (I'm a closed book, then.),..at least right away. It may just have to wait to later. He runs two businesses...I don't want him to have a heart attack. :cry: :true:

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kitkatherine 5 years 16 weeks

he knows. and he is really good at not being an asshole or anything. when i'm sad, he always trys to make me happy by either being really really cute or just kind of holding me for awhile.if i'm mad at something, he trys to calm me down. if we are mad at each other, we kind of stare at each other for awhile, then both apologize. because usually we are both wrong.

kitkatherine 5 years 16 weeks

he knows. and he is really good at not being an asshole or anything. when i'm sad, he always trys to make me happy by either being really really cute or just kind of holding me for awhile. if i'm mad at something, he trys to calm me down. if we are mad at each other, we kind of stare at each other for awhile, then both apologize. because usually we are both wrong.

heineken67 5 years 17 weeks

He reads me like a book when I'm actually upset, but he also tends to think I'm sad sometimes when I'm just spacing out.

herjoiedevivre 5 years 17 weeks

lol yeahhh he does. he just said, "all I gotta do is see your face!" hahaha. instead of a big goofy smile I usually have a flat face tacked on and I'll snap at him for stupid stuff. poor guy!

firephoenix 5 years 17 weeks

hahaha, he definitely knows when im feeling upset though he doesnt know what caused it. And i also know when he is upset. I think im very intuitive cuz i can also tell when some of my friends are upset

Luckystar11311 5 years 17 weeks

Apparently I have a "look" whenever I'm upset with him. Even though we rarley fight, he knows it the second he sees it.

lilwildone1202 5 years 17 weeks

my boyfriend SO does--i hate it sometimes bc im like god am i that easy to read and he's like no i just know you better than you think i do. i can tell...maybe..75 percent of the time when he is upset too- but he's right with me about 90 percent of the time haha

sweetk8ty76 5 years 17 weeks

Yes! He magically knows whether it's in person or over the phone. I guess just my actions or tone or something is different because I can't hide it when something's bothering me.

plasticapple 5 years 17 weeks

Yes, he always knows! No matter how well I try to hide it.

sparklestar 5 years 17 weeks

My boyfriend KNOWS but whether he'll do anything is another thing entirely. Sometimes he'll just tell me to f-off if it's something related to something he's done. If it's something major (like when I found out I was diabetic) he generally just ignores it though and I have to go find somebody else to talk to about it. It sounds harsh but I know he can't deal with ANYTHING so I don't expect him to.

sparklestar 5 years 17 weeks

My boyfriend KNOWS but whether he'll do anything is another thing entirely. Sometimes he'll just tell me to f-off if it's something related to something he's done.If it's something major (like when I found out I was diabetic) he generally just ignores it though and I have to go find somebody else to talk to about it.It sounds harsh but I know he can't deal with ANYTHING so I don't expect him to.

emalove 5 years 17 weeks

Most of the time...sometimes I do a good job of hiding it though, from everyone.

intensebandgeek 5 years 17 weeks

He totally knows, and sometimes I think it's a little creepy!

merie33 5 years 17 weeks

he always knows...sometimes before i even really know that something is bugging me, and he always knows how to make it better!

Merlin713 5 years 17 weeks

Yup, he knows. Everything is always written all over my face and in my body language. Typically, I am unaware I show these things, but he asks me until I tell him what's wrong so he can figure out how to fix it.

Sun_Sun 5 years 17 weeks

my husband can tell within milliseconds =D and its annoying cuz he gets so paranoid that hes done something wrong. well usually he has, but sometimes im just down, god!

michelleannette 5 years 17 weeks

my boyfriend knows and immediately does all he can to make me feel better.

Masqueraded_Angel 5 years 17 weeks

My husband can tell in a heartbeat if I'm upset or not. If it has something to do with him however, he's as dumb as a doornail. :) My mom has always told me that my face is like an open book...so it must not be that hard to tell.

bigestivediscuit 5 years 17 weeks

Definitely! Even if I'm happy and smiling, but something is bothering me deep down, my boyfriend will take me aside ask if I'm really ok. Sometimes I really do think we have a psychic connection - cemented by the fact that we hadn't talked for two days recently (he's in the middle of a huge move) and we discovered we had almost the EXACT same dream on the SAME night!!! LOL - yeah, he knows me pretty well, I think!

missyd 5 years 17 weeks

My god, all of your boyfriends sound so nice and supportive.

Marci 5 years 17 weeks

He often knows I'm upset about something before I've even figured that out! Then we talk and it leads to me pinpointing something. It's a continuous source of fascination to me.

books and shoes 5 years 17 weeks

Yeah, I think EVERYBODY knows when I'm upset. I get very reserved and quiet, and not really good at hiding it.

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