Do Tell: Does Your Mother Ever Drive You Nuts?

October 29, 2008

How many times do you hear someone say that her mom drives her nuts? I hear it all the time, and truth be told, I've said it my fair share of times too. Now don't get me wrong, I love my mom; I'm very fortunate to have the relationship I do with her, but sometimes her over-protective nature and smothering affection can be a little too much. And even though she's always there for me — whether it's to give advice or offer a listening ear — do tell, does your mom ever just drive you nuts? And if so, what is it specifically that gets on your nerves?

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2 years

I was always more fond of my dad... He passed away 2 years ago and I am blessed with the fact that I spent some quality time with him before and I told him I loved him. I am hard to do the same with my mother, but she is such a difficult character. My brother and her quarrel all the time... He is shouting at her and then she calls me in tears for me to comfort her. I know that she has many issues and that she is not always a nice person but that's how she is. She is still my mother, she will never change and her health is deteriorating rapidly. For the last 14 years she is living in a house which is now too big for her, without heating and quite unsafe. It was OK when my dad was alive but not it is completely stupid for her to live there. So we have spent the last 6 months looking for another smaller flat with central heating and all. You would imagine that after 6 months anyone would have found a small flat but my mother doesn't really want to move. She call me every now and then to go and check out on a flat and there is always something wrong with it. Twice she (actually I) have put down a deposit and cancelled it loosing the money. I leave my office work to escort her and I now feel like she is playing with me. I was always much more patient and kind with her, and I was trying to convinve my brother to go easy with her. But now I can feel that my patience is running thin. I am so angry at her but when I let her know she keeps telling me things like "Don't worry about me, I will manage... I will stay in this house for as long as I can and then I will go to some institution and get out of your way!" If this is not emotional blackmail I don't know what is...

2 years

My mom always drives me insane...I've moved out a while back but she is constantly complaining about my father and she never shuts up...She's like the constant nagging machine...She'll call my house repeatedly and leave 10 messages on my message machine...It's gotten to a point where i just disconnect the phone...I love my mom she just annoys the living crap out of me sometimes...the thing i hate the most is when she complains cause once she gets started it's like the world revolves around her ya know

mushaboom 4 years

Never. I'm lucky. We talk every few days, though sometimes not for a week or two, but she'll drop me an email or a facebook message if it's been too long, to check that I'm still alive. And I call her, she really only calls when there's news or to return my call. We live very different lives, i.e. I gave up the religion she raised me in and basically live like a filthy heathen. But she passes no judgement. None. She really just respects that I'm an adult and I know who I am, and that's the most important thing. We're close, she's there when I need her. She's pretty great.

mushaboom 4 years

Never. I'm lucky. We talk every few days, though sometimes not for a week or two, but she'll drop me an email or a facebook message if it's been too long, to check that I'm still alive.And I call her, she really only calls when there's news or to return my call. We live very different lives, i.e. I gave up the religion she raised me in and basically live like a filthy heathen. But she passes no judgement. None. She really just respects that I'm an adult and I know who I am, and that's the most important thing.We're close, she's there when I need her. She's pretty great.

pippins_halfling 4 years

I love her, but sometimes she is just not understanding at all. She hates the very idea of boys (even though this is my second year out of the house!), and she thinks all of them are out to rape you (no joke). I'm also an average weight for my height, but she is always making me feel inadequate and should lose "just little bit" more. Ah well. It's her weird way of showing she cares.

AnnaMaria816 4 years

I have a great relationship with my mother. She is very intelligent, hardworking,empathetic and supportive. But she has a bad habit of being too picky about how I behave in public and at family gatherings.

CaterpillarGirl 4 years

Sometimes she does, but its rare, usually its because she is nagging me about doctors appointments (she is a nurse)

javsmav 4 years

nope. we talk a couple times a month & get along fine. She isn't overbearing or nosy or any of that. we're not super close, but she doesn't drive me nuts.

mama8699 4 years

No to be a downer either...but my mom passed away several years ago and I thought bar-none she was the most over-bearing, critical and feisty thing I had ever seen. And yes she drove me buggy. We could spar like no ones business. BUT, I know that she loved me, she did her best and now that I am a mom, I see more than ever the sacrifices she made for me as she rasied me as a single parent. And I realize no parent is perffect. So yes, if your mother is still alive and she has her occassional crazy moments, appreciate her and love her while she's still on this earth.

356UIK 4 years

LOL! Of course. That's what they're there for! :P

gemsera 4 years

I havent spoken to my mother in years. thats the way i like it.

italianblonde 4 years

The title of this post is definitely a rhetorical question!! My mom always drove me crazy when I was younger. She'd always be standing over me when I was on the computer or doing my homework, I hated that. And she hates noises like swallowing food, pouring drinks, or breathing hard when you are sick, so she was always yelling about that. Actually, she was always yelling. We've only had two 'normal-tone' conversations ever. Even when I moved out she'd always call me and assume I was doing terrible things and would just yell. Though I do realize she cares about me, umm..there are other ways to communicate besides derogatory comments.

erniew 4 years

My mom absolutely drives me insane. She's incredibly opinionated, controlling and has this amazing ability to transform into a martyr at the drop of a pin...BUT, she is an amazing mother. She is strong, wonderful, loving, patient and giving. She has raised four amazing children (I am one of them!), continued to care for my father/her ex-husband following an amicable but lengthy divorce and is beloved by her eight grandchildren. Our relationship is an interesting one because I live down the street from her (she moved near me, not the other way around) and we've always butted heads. She fears my older sister, is glued to my younger sister and always rushing to take care of my brother. I've needed her less and I think that makes us friends but ones that do not always agree. Over the years I've learned how to assess, deal and move on. We have a good relationship. I can't complain.

erniew 4 years

My mom absolutely drives me insane. She's incredibly opinionated, controlling and has this amazing ability to transform into a martyr at the drop of a pin...BUT, she is an amazing mother. She is strong, wonderful, loving, patient and giving. She has raised four amazing children (I am one of them!), continued to care for my father/her ex-husband following an amicable but lengthy divorce and is beloved by her eight grandchildren.Our relationship is an interesting one because I live down the street from her (she moved near me, not the other way around) and we've always butted heads. She fears my older sister, is glued to my younger sister and always rushing to take care of my brother. I've needed her less and I think that makes us friends but ones that do not always agree.Over the years I've learned how to assess, deal and move on. We have a good relationship. I can't complain.

kia 4 years

My mother has no concept of who I am. She checked out of my life when I was nine and lives in a time warp that I am still nine. That drives me nuts when she passes judgement on me without even knowing me. What really is maddening for me is that her examples she uses in her long-winded speeches to me are based on actions my sisters did, she gets me and my siblings mixed up a lot!

macchiatolove 4 years

of course! I think it's their perogative, if not their right to irritate the hell out of their children!My mum sounds a bit like yours, Avocado Seed!she has funny OCD kind of things that she does that drive me crazy - like she weighs all the washing so she doesn't overload our washing machine. She also ALWAYS asks me what I'm doing in the kitchen 'apart from making a mess' - she knows exactly what I'm doing. I'm making a bulk load of lunches to freeze, therefore saving money during the week. And yet, if I went out every day and got take away she'd complain about me wasting money.You can't please 'em!Although, I know I am super blessed, I'm very lucky and I love my mamma to death!

macchiatolove 4 years

of course! I think it's their perogative, if not their right to irritate the hell out of their children! My mum sounds a bit like yours, Avocado Seed! she has funny OCD kind of things that she does that drive me crazy - like she weighs all the washing so she doesn't overload our washing machine. She also ALWAYS asks me what I'm doing in the kitchen 'apart from making a mess' - she knows exactly what I'm doing. I'm making a bulk load of lunches to freeze, therefore saving money during the week. And yet, if I went out every day and got take away she'd complain about me wasting money. You can't please 'em! Although, I know I am super blessed, I'm very lucky and I love my mamma to death!

bengalspice 4 years

My mom always calls me at work to tell me to quit my job, go back to school so I can marry a "nice boy." She doesn't listen when I tell her she should stop calling me at work to ask me when am I planning on getting married ... because it pretty much ruins my work day and whatever momentum I might have in getting my work done.Thanks Mom for throwing a wrench in my day!

bengalspice 4 years

babysoftpink 4 years

Additionally, I don't like her calling me names in the most disgusting ways.. She has been doing that comfortably since the day I was born and on the phone and she could spill out all kinds of VERY demeaning words that are targeted towards women and break anyone down if she so wishes. It takes many years away from her to heal myself and I won't ever want to be living with her ever again in this or next life or the life after. It also takes years of both emotional and physical abuse for me to get to this point. (I was physically injured by my parents) She does not do this in front of others except one time that she did it to a supervisor at work and got herself into trouble. Thanks to my overcoming this experience, I can take on anything and any person in this life without fear.

babysoftpink 4 years

Additionally, I don't like her calling me names in the most disgusting ways.. She has been doing that comfortably since the day I was born and on the phone and she could spill out all kinds of VERY demeaning words that are targeted towards women and break anyone down if she so wishes. It takes many years away from her to heal myself and I won't ever want to be living with her ever again in this or next life or the life after. It also takes years of both emotional and physical abuse for me to get to this point. (I was physically injured by my parents) She does not do this in front of others except one time that she did it to a supervisor at work and got herself into trouble.Thanks to my overcoming this experience, I can take on anything and any person in this life without fear.

babysoftpink 4 years

Yes. Sadly I have not spoken to her for 2 years but still have nightmares of her and my father. The dreams also seem so real that I would cuss so bad that I wake myself sometimes.

popcorn19 4 years

Yes. Love her to death--but I cannot live with her. She's one of those people that I could spend hours on the phone with, but the day I go to my parents' house to visit, I just need to get out of there.

popcorn19 4 years

Yes.Love her to death--but I cannot live with her. She's one of those people that I could spend hours on the phone with, but the day I go to my parents' house to visit, I just need to get out of there.

heartbreakerx62x 4 years

My mom can be terribly annoying, and sometimes acts like the kid. But, she is the only parent I have!

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