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Do I Just Have Cold Feet?

Group Therapy: Cold Feet or Eye Opener?

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I'm 25 and I'm engaged to my fiance, who is 30, since Sept. 2010. I was over the moon when he proposed. I have always thought that he was the ''ONE."

When the initial buzz of the engagement wore off and family and friends stopped congratulating, in the cold light of day with the ring on my finger, I was starting to feel trapped. I spoke to my fiance about how I was feeling not excited anymore about getting married and it felt like it was a hill to climb before we could get married, as I was made redundant from my job and he was only working part-time. Paying for the wedding was becoming a massive burden.

He suggested that we beg, steal (not actually stealing), and borrow to pay for wedding. So I agreed and we set a date for May 2012. The trapped feeling disappeared and the excitement over took us again. Being the oldest of 25 grandchildren and the first on my side of the family to marry it's become a big deal for my family. But lately as the date of the wedding gets closer and things are getting formalised, the feeling of being trapped has come back.

I have been craving single life again and feel empty toward the wedding. I am hoping it is a dose of cold feet even though I thought it was the men who only got cold feet about marriage. Don't get me wrong here, I truly love my fiance and would be completely lost without him. I just want to try to fix this thing before it's too late and I'm either married and hating it or single again and wanting what I had.

Can anyone offer me advice on this; did anyone prior getting married feel the same or similar? Is this normal or a message that I'm not ready to settle with married life?

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