A Do or a Don't: Quickie Marriages

March 26, 2009

Getting engaged and committing to spend the rest of your life with someone is a decision that should not be made hastily. Usually couples take baby steps — date for a while, move in together, get engaged, and then get married — but not everyone follows those unwritten rules. Some couples move quickly and marry after only months! Personally, I think it's best to really get to know someone before taking the trip down the a
aisle, but to each their own. So what do you think? Are quickie engagements/marriages a do or a don't in your book?

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54 Comments

LittleMzFit 4 years 3 weeks

I don't think anyone should rush, but really believe that you WILL know! :heart:

sparklestar 4 years 7 weeks

We moved in together after a few months but we'd been good friends for over 2 years. We KNEW each other and didn't want to be apart.I have no idea when the engagement and the marriage is going to happen. I am in graduate school and his job situation is uncertain. We've discussed it and agreed that it is what we want but it won't happen yet.

sparklestar 4 years 7 weeks

We moved in together after a few months but we'd been good friends for over 2 years. We KNEW each other and didn't want to be apart. I have no idea when the engagement and the marriage is going to happen. I am in graduate school and his job situation is uncertain. We've discussed it and agreed that it is what we want but it won't happen yet.

Lily100 4 years 7 weeks

Definitely not. I am in the third year of my relationship and he is a completely different person to what he was to me in the first year. It is impossible to know in such a short space of time whether you can really create a life together with someone or not. Marriage is too important to rush.

aimeeb 4 years 7 weeks

Eh not for me.

aimeeb 4 years 7 weeks

Eh not for me.

tnmom 4 years 7 weeks

I have to vote a big NO. I married my high school sweetheart after dating for 4 years. We were married for 15 years and had 2 beautiful daughters together. He died of cancer when our kids were 3 and 5. I dated my current husband for 3 years before we married. I can't imagine getting married to a person I had been dating for less than 2 years.

tnmom 4 years 7 weeks

I have to vote a big NO.I married my high school sweetheart after dating for 4 years. We were married for 15 years and had 2 beautiful daughters together. He died of cancer when our kids were 3 and 5.I dated my current husband for 3 years before we married. I can't imagine getting married to a person I had been dating for less than 2 years.

Spectra 4 years 7 weeks

It depends on the situation and on the people involved. My husband and I got engaged after dating for only 6 months and got married 7 months after that. We REALLY knew that we were perfect for each other though...we'd both kissed enough toads to know that we would be perfect for each other. We've been married almost 4 years now and we're looking forward to many more. As long as both people are in the same mindset and have the same goals, I see no reason to postpone getting married.

amelioratelj 4 years 8 weeks

When I met my husband, I knew I was going to marry him. We married in only months and I don't regret it for a second. We didn't see the point in waiting for it to be "socially acceptable" if we were both comfortable and knew it was right for us :)

omilawd 4 years 8 weeks

How about "get married when you're both ready." However long that takes.

omilawd 4 years 8 weeks

How about "get married when you're both ready."However long that takes.

queenegg 4 years 8 weeks

You know. I knew that my bf was it for me the moment I saw him. I waited for him to realize the same about me. He has and now we live together.

bacon 4 years 8 weeks

My husband and I got engaged after 7 months of dating and then got married 10 months after that! When you know, you know!

bluepuppybites 4 years 8 weeks

You know I wonder if some of these shotgun wedding of parents and today are because they were pregnant...that's how it was with my grandparents, though she'll never admit to it saying that her first was a preemie. Some people are still old fashioned like that.

thelorax 4 years 8 weeks

I voted it's a don't, even though I married my husband after only 7 months of dating. I've never doubted that he's the man I'm meant to be with, but I do think it's smarter, in general, to really take your time and get to know each other as much as possible before promising "til death do you part" - breakups are rough, but they're easier than a divorce!!

bbkf 4 years 8 weeks

I'm all about falling in love and moving in together quickly. Heck, even get engaged quickly. But I don't see the reason to get married quickly. What's the rush? I had a long engagement and I'm very glad. It gave us both a chance to be really really sure that we were in this forever.

jessy777 4 years 8 weeks

I couldn't say. I don't want to get married but I can see myself doing it quickly if I did. I think it depends on the guy and the situation.

mlmoreno47 4 years 8 weeks

I've been with the same guy almost six years and I'm STILL learning things about him.

kiwitwist 4 years 8 weeks

my marriage was a quicky.. we had been together for awhile though. We got engaged and then got married less than a month later due to immigration.

sass317 4 years 8 weeks

Im sure some people thought my DH were rushing things a little when we got engaged on our first anniversary, but our parents had been friends since before we were born, so its not like we were perfect strangers or anything. My parents went from blind date to married in 6 months and have been happily married for 32 years- but when DH and I had been together for slightly over 6 months my dad made a comment about my relationship with him (how it was still very new, etc) I said, "dad, I love him, hes it- seriously, hes the guy Im going to marry" He kinda spazzed- my mom laughed. I pointed out that by this point he and mom were already married and he started to protest and my mom interrupted him and said, "Honey- think about it, do the math, shes right" Everyone is different, but I would never advise a friend to rush into anything- no matter how many people I know that made it work- there are likely twice as many, if not more, that it crashed and burned (including me and my ex)

sass317 4 years 8 weeks

Im sure some people thought my DH were rushing things a little when we got engaged on our first anniversary, but our parents had been friends since before we were born, so its not like we were perfect strangers or anything. My parents went from blind date to married in 6 months and have been happily married for 32 years- but when DH and I had been together for slightly over 6 months my dad made a comment about my relationship with him (how it was still very new, etc) I said, "dad, I love him, hes it- seriously, hes the guy Im going to marry"He kinda spazzed- my mom laughed. I pointed out that by this point he and mom were already married and he started to protest and my mom interrupted him and said, "Honey- think about it, do the math, shes right"Everyone is different, but I would never advise a friend to rush into anything- no matter how many people I know that made it work- there are likely twice as many, if not more, that it crashed and burned (including me and my ex)