Death To Mojo?

Dear Sugar
I am a 20-something woman and after taking a break from dating, I'm ready to get back in the game. I was unhappy in the past and felt that it would be unhealthy to try to have a relationship when I wasn't "whole." Well, a year and a half later, I'm happy, healthy, in great shape and on the right track. I've got two problems: my social skills and general dress have declined greatly and I don't know where to meet men. I used to party and drink a lot. Now, I'm relatively free of tobacco and alcohol. I had an easy time meeting men at parties, bars and clubs, but it's not longer my scene. In fact, I feel really uncomfortable around drunken people though I am not against drinking sensibly. I don't even know where to go to meet men that aren't just looking for hook ups. The second issue is that I now live in comfortable gym-quality clothes. I used to wear make up every day, I wore heels all the time and I dressed up every chance I got. The ability to clean up nice has disappeared completely. Missing My Mojo

Dear Missing My Mojo
Two things have happened here. 1. It sounds like you are finally comfortable being you! Congratulations, somewhere during your male-free hiatus you discovered what really makes you happy. Not drinking, not smoking, wearing comfy clothes and working out. You've channeled your unhappiness into good things and look atcha now! 2. You are looking for a meaningful relationship and not just a fun date once in a while. So now besides going to clubs and bars, you need a new strategy to meet men. Here are my ideas. If you like working out then join a running /biking club or spend more time at the gym. There are tons of hotties there and you'll never have to wear heels or make up. You could also ask your friends to set you up on blind dates. Perhaps, if they do the screening, it will take some of the stress away. You could also try online dating. In your profile explain your aversion to smokers, heavy drinkers and partiers. There are so many guys out there who are looking for the same qualities in a woman. But when you do go out on a date, try just a little mascara and gloss. I'll bet YOU'LL feel prettier. Slowly but surely that Mojo will resurface!