DearSugar and Stuck in the Middle Matilda need your help. Her boyfriend doesn't get along with her family and she's feeling torn. Do you have any advice for her?
I have been seeing my boyfriend for 18 months and it has been the most amazing time of my life. He is an unbelievable guy and he's really good to me; I feel very lucky. My problem is that he doesn't really like my family. He gets along with them when he has to, but he refuses to voluntarily spend time with them. We are quite a close bunch, but they recently moved to a different state for the family business. The catch here is that I work for my dad's company. I've resigned (because of the move) and my last day is Feb. 15.
I have to go train the new person for 10 days and I asked my boyfriend to come visit for the weekend in the middle so we could see each other. I was trying to make the best of a bad situation so we could at least still see each other, but he completely lost it and told me that I will never be able to say no to my family. As a 30-year-old woman, I don't consider myself abnormally attached to them, but apparently he thinks I'm a daddy's girl and he has no problem telling me so. I feel like I am being pulled in two different directions and I can't seem to make anyone happy. Do you think he is overreacting? Am I? I love my family and I love my boyfriend, so how can I make this work? — Stuck in the Middle Matilda