DearSugar and Am I Being Naive? Nikki need your help. She likes this guy but is worried about his drug-abusing past. Should she let this affect her decision to date him?
I have a bit of a dilemma. I'm 21 and going to college in Pennsylvania. I met this great guy online through a close friend of mine. We chatted online and totally clicked, and he said he would love to meet me in the flesh so we can get to know each other better. I'm not so worried about the meeting part, but I am concerned with who he was in the past. I'm not perfect and have definitely made my mistakes — who hasn't, right? — but he was diagnosed with bipolar type II disorder and is a recovering drug addict. He's used heroin but has been sober and clean for more than eight months. Right now, he's living at home, working as a bus boy, and attending community college. Is it bad idea to date someone with such a crazy past? One of my friends says that I'm better than that, and why should an ambitious college girl date an ex heroin junkie? I do like him, and I don't want to be judgmental, but I don't know if it would be a bad idea to date him or not. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
—Am I Being Naive? Nikki