DearSugar and Level Headed Heather need your help. Her husband had an affair, got the other woman pregnant, and they are now trying to decide how to tell their 6-year-old daughter about her half-brother. Do you have any advice?
I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 4-month-old son. My husband has been having an affair for several years and he came clean while I was pregnant with our youngest. He told me because the woman who he is having the affair with was also pregnant, due two months after me. I know this is crazy but I am coping with it. My husband and I are getting a divorce. He is still with the other woman. He wants to have a relationship with our two children and I want him to as well, for our children's sake — it's not the kids' fault this happened.
The problem is that he wants our children to know their other brother, but he doesn't know how to talk to our daughter about this. He and I are remaining civil toward each other and I want to help him talk to our kids, but I really don't have any clue how to broach this subject. Although he sounds like a horrible guy, he really is a good father. Please help and give me some suggestions so that I can help him explain this to our 6-year-old. — Level Headed Heather