Dear Poll: Would you Want him in the Room?

July 19, 2007

Sometimes couples don't always make it for the long haul, even if they are expecting a baby together. But just because you are broken up, some couples feel it's incredibly important to have both mother and father be a part of the baby's life. While that is a totally reasonable goal, what I want to know is, would you want your ex boyfriend/father of your baby in the delivery room while you are giving birth?

Although Bridget Moynahan is in this exact pickle, she seems to still be taking great care of herself!

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30 Comments

Muirnea 5 years 39 weeks

It would def. depend on how the relationship ended, if the guy did something really mean, like cheating or anything else then I would say no he shouldn't be there, because the baby doesn't need a bad influence from the day it starts its life!! If the relationship ended on good terms then yes that might be ok. Children don't always need 2 parents just because that is how most families are...some people can help their child by NOT being there if they are a bad person.

Popeye 5 years 39 weeks

Ok so i am a guy but i would want the ex/father to be in there!! It is important for the child to hear when he or she is old enough that his/her father was in the room when they were born!! They still might not be together but it's the baby's first day in this new world!!

paulinhadrp 5 years 40 weeks

I agree with the many that said that it would depend on how the relationship ended and whether both are on good terms or not. But I think I would want it... even though I hope this is something I won't have to deal with.

paulinhadrp 5 years 40 weeks

I agree with the many that said that it would depend on how the relationship ended and whether both are on good terms or not.But I think I would want it... even though I hope this is something I won't have to deal with.

Jus_A_Partyr 5 years 40 weeks

If he is reliable,loving and trustworthy he will ask you what you want.

scoop45 5 years 41 weeks

Its a blessing!he can be there

Madinat 5 years 41 weeks

that what parents are for!

Madinat 5 years 41 weeks

that what parents are for!

cherrygirl77 5 years 42 weeks

I would have nothing agianst him being in the room fighting or not. For those of you that have witnessed a birth there is nothing like it. It is the most amazing occurance that will happen to most of us. If you cared about each other ay one point, enough to make a baby together you should do the birth together. When your child grows up they want to know that both their parents were there, And as far as the gross stuff that is all forgotten about the second the baby comes out.My husband respected me so much more after wathing the hell I had to go through during the birth of our child; and he cried, it was amazing.

sass317 5 years 43 weeks

When my ex's son was born, he was SUPPOSED to be in the room- She had been induced and hadnt progressed much all day so he left and went to his friends apt to take a nap (he was out partying ALL night, yes I know he is a total idiot, thats why hes an ex) and as soon as he left she dilated to 9.5- he got back right in time to cut the cord and she told me later that she was really glad he wasnt in there for the delivery, but she was happy he made it to cut the cord. I totally understood that she felt that way.

sass317 5 years 43 weeks

Miami Gal 5 years 43 weeks

Being in the room has only become popular in the last 50 years. She will need someone she can rely on. So no.Unless she can grab a hold of his ear or some other delicate appendage instead of a grip bar.

Miami Gal 5 years 43 weeks

Being in the room has only become popular in the last 50 years. She will need someone she can rely on. So no. Unless she can grab a hold of his ear or some other delicate appendage instead of a grip bar.

JustMe21 5 years 43 weeks

I said yes. I mean, why not? He helped make the baby.

nessabum 5 years 43 weeks

and also whether or not you are with someone else. if you are already with someone else who is supportive of you, why have the real father be there when you already have someone else?

nessabum 5 years 43 weeks

i think it really depends on how the break up came about.

lickety split 5 years 43 weeks

when you have a baby your feet are in the stirrups, there is a catheter on you, you might poop on the table, your back feels like its coming off your spine and your crotch is exposed for the whole room to see. labor is work and the medical staff are professionsls. i would never have a man in the room that i wasn't currently involved with. there is a price to pay for not being a couple and that would certainly be part of it for me. you do need someone there that isn't hospital staff, but that is for YOU, someone thsat can go get the staff if you need them or tell them your wishes you if you aren't in a position to do so.

lickety split 5 years 43 weeks

leeluvfashion 5 years 43 weeks

Yes; it's still his child too. Even if I wasn't on good terms w/ him, I still think he would deserve to be there. I mean it's just fair. I would also bring someone else in the room (like a bff or someone) because it would help make things easier.

rubialala 5 years 43 weeks

It's his baby too. It's not fair to exclude him if he wants to be involved I would encourage that behavior as much as possible.

Masqueraded_Angel 5 years 43 weeks

I had already decided before I gave birth that my son's father would NOT be in the room. Yes we were in a relationship, but it was an abusive one...and I did not want to him to complicate things by being there. And even though he practically got into a fistfight with the nurses after I said, "Take him out," he was not welcome in the room.

facin8me 5 years 43 weeks

Labor and delivery is such an emotional and physically demanding time- it's hard to say how a woman will feel once she begins giving birth. While I agree that the decision would probably hinge on how the relationship ended, nobody has a "right" to be in the delivery room. It's completely up to the woman involved in the process. If somebody present was impeding the labor, the nurses and doctors would have that person out of there in a heartbeat, whether or not that person thought they had a "right" to be there.

fab4 5 years 43 weeks

I guess it does depend on the way it ended. We must remember, though that the baby is still half his and if he wanted to be there, it might make the situation worse by not letting him...