Dear Poll: Would you Date a Guy That Did This?

July 13, 2007

There seems to be a new trend in Hollywood -- men knocking up their girlfriends and then leaving them for another woman while their ex is still preggo with their baby!!! Loyal they are not. But what happens if you simply fall in love with someone else? Is it fair to say he should follow his heart? Or do you think he should finish what he has started and give his new family a shot at succeeding? While everyone is entitled to her own opinion, what I want to know is, would you date a man that left his pregnant girlfriend for you?

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calli gurl 4 years 40 weeks

if those guys knew what love really was, they wouldnt leave their preggy gfs in the first place. they will be what they are forever. suckers for love

melda 5 years 39 weeks

nope!

melda 5 years 39 weeks

nope!

goldskies 5 years 40 weeks

I'm currently dating and in love with a guy who's ex girl is pregnant. she found out a few weeks after we started dating and proceeded to shout it from the roof tops so to speak. she is wacko about the whole thing. it's obvious she intentionally got pregnant knowing their relationship was about to end. he has a 6 yr old daughter by another woman. one day i accidently found letters the pregnant girl wrote to him about how jealous she was that the other woman had a part of him and she didn't. then i found one where she told him what a miracle their baby was and how she already loves him/her. at 4 months pregnant she already has a carseat and babyshade in her car. i mean this girl is obsessed. she has come to my work making a scene about her condition and about me dating the father of her baby. she stalks him, beats on his door when i'm over, calls his phone over and over while we're out, shows up at his parents house on holidays, b-days etc. anyways, point is he didn't plan to have a child with her but she is trying to trap him. he says he is going to love and support the baby but swears he wont go back to her. i just hope he doesn't take that wacko back once the child is born (3 months from now). i don't think he's scum or a jerk, i think he has made poor choices in girlfriends in the past.

goldskies 5 years 40 weeks

PhillyGirl6 5 years 40 weeks

Knowingly; I would never want to be involved with a man like that. It's sickening that some of these men don't even want to acknowledge the paternity of their own children. However, 20 years ago I met & fell in love with a man who did not know his previous fling, (they were never an official couple) was pregnant. She was 2 months when we met & they had already stopped seeing each other before she found out about the pregnancy. She didn't inform him until she was almost 6 months. We were already heavily involved at that time, and there were no chances for reconciliation, before he even met me. Due to personal reasons she was unable to raise the baby the first year of his life; I happily resumed that responsibility and we (his father & I) raised him while maintaining an amicable relationship w/ her until she was able to resume parenting. That baby; now a man, still considers me his 2nd Mom and his father & I still maintain a close friendship. As well; I still have infrequent, but good communications with his mother.

PhillyGirl6 5 years 40 weeks

Knowingly; I would never want to be involved with a man like that. It's sickening that some of these men don't even want to acknowledge the paternity of their own children. However, 20 years ago I met & fell in love with a man who did not know his previous fling, (they were never an official couple) was pregnant. She was 2 months when we met & they had already stopped seeing each other before she found out about the pregnancy. She didn't inform him until she was almost 6 months. We were already heavily involved at that time, and there were no chances for reconciliation, before he even met me. Due to personal reasons she was unable to raise the baby the first year of his life; I happily resumed that responsibility and we (his father & I) raised him while maintaining an amicable relationship w/ her until she was able to resume parenting.That baby; now a man, still considers me his 2nd Mom and his father & I still maintain a close friendship. As well; I still have infrequent, but good communications with his mother.

Green 5 years 41 weeks

If he would leave her "with child" what condition is he going to leave you in??

ThePerfectScore 5 years 42 weeks

Depends Is he going to take responsibility or automatically pull the It ain't Mine game.... I actually would prefer to avoid the whole drama and be with a guy who realized that birth control works....

lissa25 5 years 43 weeks

its called use birth control AND a condom and there will be no baby to abandon and leave with a girlfriend.

lilxmissxmolly 5 years 43 weeks

i think that sometimes people fall in love with someone else. i mean, having two parents at home is wonderful (thats the life I have) but most of my friends' parents are divorced, and the consensus is htat before htey were divorced, they fought all the time and it was awful to be around, so now that they're separated they're civil around them and each get to spend time with the child. i think that its better to be supportive of the baby, spend time with the baby, etc., but if you're not in love with the mtoher, it'll make everyone miserable if he sticks around. however, i don't think i could be with someone who did that.

fab4 5 years 44 weeks

Junebrug made a great point! Why does everyone keep saying that you can't help who you fall in love with?? Are you not able to use deductive reasoning and rationalize whether he's a good guy or not?

nessabum 5 years 44 weeks

about the first option--you might love the person, but it doesn't mean you need to date them. the two don't need to go hand in hand.and no, i wouldn't date a guy who got some other girl preggers. too complicated.

nessabum 5 years 44 weeks

about the first option--you might love the person, but it doesn't mean you need to date them. the two don't need to go hand in hand. and no, i wouldn't date a guy who got some other girl preggers. too complicated.

lissa25 5 years 44 weeks

luv_bug1211, so basically you helped contribute to a cheater cheating. there is no "technicality" when it comes to that--you're just using that phrase to make yourself feel better. a smart woman waits until the man is SINGLE to move in for the kill. he deserves whats coming to him for being such a low life.

lissa25 5 years 44 weeks

no way! not a smart move. shows he has poor character! true, you can't help who you love, but that doesn't mean they're good for you or that you should be with them!

luv_bug1211 5 years 44 weeks

Im actually in this situation right now(grab your pitchforks). My guy and i had gotten together while he was still technically dating someone, we had been together for awhile before we broke up due to issues with him being away. When he called that evening to break it off with her she ended up telling him that she had found out that afternoon that she was pregnant. Its a rather large mess right now actually.