Dear Poll: Would You Ever Date Brothers?

November 12, 2007

The Afflecks — they're both talented, good looking and wealthy, so how could you choose between the two — or do you have to? Ladies, tell me, would you ever date brothers? If it didn't work out with one of them and you started developing feelings for the other one, be honest, would you ever go for the brother of your ex?

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2 years 6 weeks

I dated this guy who's a bit older than me. His younger brother is the same age as me. After the older brother and I broke up, we were still really good friends and his family still likes me. Then the younger brother and I became really close friends. So now their mother wants the younger brother to date me too. Just wanted to point out that there are always exceptions.

3 years 12 weeks

I had a thing with a guy and it was just a fling and i fell for his younger brother. the boys are polar opposites. I dated the older brother later on in the year to get back at the younger one for breaking my heart but i couldnt stand the older one so i left him and i never met the family when i was with the older one and just recently i started seeing the younger one again and met the parents. And it wasnt awkward cause i dont think they knew. so is there anything wrong with that? Nope.

3 years 30 weeks

I'm actually currently in this situation. Thanks to years of stupid decisions, facebook and alcohol. I don't recommend it. So far, it's just emotionally draining.

3 years 34 weeks

what if Ur not boyfriend and girlfriend 2 start with.u are casually dating the older brother. That ends. U randomly meet the younger brother. then find out there step brothers. Do u stop then? one is a jackass the older brother, the other one is Ur friend. u didn't meet some of the fam til u started to c the younger brother. the brothers have always had a strained relationship. r u a skank? disrespectful? is everything valid in war in love?

3 years 39 weeks

I guess I can say I can 'somewhat' relate to this, but at my workplace, there are two brothers that I work with (we're all seasonal workers btw). Sooo the younger one made the first move on me and I eventually started to have feelings for this guy. We got to know each eventually switched digits and msn but never actually got together outside work. At first I thought his older brother didn't like me as a friend or anything, but once I opened up to him he too eventually asked for my number asked if we could hang out sometime. As soon as he asked I felt so awkward because what if either one decides to take me to home... I know for certain the younger brother is a flirt and loves being around me all the time. While the older brother seems to be taking his time with things. I can see a lot of differences in them and I wish I hadn't given out my number to either of them because now I feel like a slut.

3 years 41 weeks

Well reading everyones comments has been intresting from where i stand ... from personal experience this is how i see it: When i was 15 i casually dated ( meaning we weren't even really boyfriend & girlfriend its highschool) It was on and off until we graduated ... his brother is a year younger then us and was always hanging out too and in our crew. I was always close with both of them we where all tight friends. The older brother moved away for college and the next day the younger brother confessed his love to me and after a while we began dating . The younger brother is the complete opposite of the older one day and night really, and we fell crazy in love and he's my soulmate. I got a lot of shit from people . There was some arkwardness there at that point and it lead us to break up at that time. Years went by and the older brother and I still occasionally hung out from time to time but never got serious or dated we remained friends and both where happy with that. I was always in touch and in love with the younger brother and now after so many years we are boyfriend & girlfriend now and very happy together ...we have the older brothers & the familys blessing and its all good. I think it just depends on the people involved and if it really comes from a place of love or lust. If your in lust its not worth it but if you really love eachother you cant help who you fall in love with sometimes.As long as everyone acts like an adult and there is no shadyness and plenty of honesty this odd scenerio can work. It has for me , now my boyfriend and I his brother and his girlfriend all hang out and there is no weirdness there, we all just want the best for eachother .I'm aware this is out of the ordinary ... but if it diden't happen to me i would not be happy in love today with the man of my dreams. People shoulden't be so judgemental ... love is a beautyful thing when its treated with care and respect. I have no regrets.

3 years 48 weeks

Oh yes, one more thing, out of all of the women in the world, why did the brother have to date my husband's ex? I am worried that the brother is going to end up getting hurt because she should not be so bitter towards me if she truly loved my brother in law.

3 years 48 weeks

We have a similar situation in our family. My husband and I were dating nonexclusively. This ex was one of the girls he was seeing. Noone knew about her. Especially me. Everyone that knew him, knew that he dated a few different women. If they did know about her, they never said anything, and we hung out in a very mutual circle of friends...one was her sister.Turned out that this particular ex and him were "supposed" to be exclusive. He eventually broke things off with her. He then approached me to be exclusive. We moved in together just short of a year after we very first met. The following spring his brother started to date the girl. They had been talking for some time. After only two months she moved in with his brother. The first family holiday that she was at, it was clear that she knew about me because she gave me a dirty look and a snyde "nice to see you again". Which I could not recall seeing her before. It is especially awkward because my husband has two small children that she spent time with. My husband cannot stand the situation. She constantly gets her snyde remarks in towards me in regards to when she dated my husband, and she does this when noone is near enough to hear. I have told my husband about this. A few months before our wedding she found out she was pregnant. They immediately got married. I am worried, because the remarks keep coming. If she really cared about the brother she would not waste her breath belittling me. Also, she thinks I stole him from her. If she only knew the truth about his lifestyle then, I am sure it would change her perspective about me. The brother even caught her giving my husband the evil eye while we were out drinking and was aggravated to the point of walking out of the pub on her. Even after the new baby, the snyde remarks keep coming. We even believe that she put a "sympathy card" simply signed "love us" in our wedding gift box.

Linny 5 years 26 weeks

i wonder how a brother could date his own brother's ex. that does not seem right to me. if i had a relationship with a guy and my sister dated him after i did, i'd be pissed. katerkins- my mom dated her best friend's brother and they got married (and had me) and they've been together forever (26 years). that's kind of breaking a rule though.

Linny 5 years 26 weeks

Katerkins 5 years 27 weeks

I have a major crush on my best guy friend's older brother. Even that's pretty awkward...

groem6 5 years 27 weeks

Dating brothers would seem alot like incest to me. When I've dated men who had brothers, I've had a real "brother (in law)" feeling about their brothers. Also, having two sisters, I know I could never be intimate with someone who also had done so with one of my sisters.. Eew.

groem6 5 years 27 weeks

rileycantina 5 years 27 weeks

it is kind of a common theme in the movies. dan in real life is the most recent and by the end you just end up thinking, is the family ok with this? family stone was another. and that one was especially weird since the two brothers switched girlfriends. tres gross.

whenturtlesfly 5 years 27 weeks

when i first read this question i thought of "while you were sleeping." but i guess sandra bullock never dated peter gallagher. sorry, tangent!

whenturtlesfly 5 years 27 weeks

when i first read this question i thought of "while you were sleeping." but i guess sandra bullock never dated peter gallagher.sorry, tangent!

lala788 5 years 27 weeks

no way, too weird

lala788 5 years 27 weeks

no way, too weird

melda 5 years 27 weeks

after reading all comments..

melda 5 years 27 weeks

after reading all comments..

demeter 5 years 27 weeks

Definitely not.

demeter 5 years 27 weeks

Definitely not.

aimeeb 5 years 27 weeks

Too weird!

aimeeb 5 years 27 weeks

Too weird!

HoneyLuv89 5 years 27 weeks

no way. i have considered the notion though...my ex's brother is very attractive and we have been flirtatious in the past. but i could never do that to my ex or his family, no matter how it ended with him (pretty badly). too bad though, his brother has way more game than he ever will...

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