Dear Poll: Would You Ever Consider Being a Surrogate Mom?

May 12, 2008

Unfortunately, not all women can get pregnant. But then there are some that can get pregnant, they just can't carry their baby full term. Of course adoption is an option, but if you want your own mini me, having a surrogate is another great alternative. The use of surrogate mothers carries a weight of controversy, but calling upon a woman close to you, a best friend or sister is a different story; it might just be one of the biggest favors a woman can ask. Of course, this would never be a rash decision, but I'm incredibly curious, if your sister or closest friend came to you with this request, would you consider being their surrogate mother?

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2 years

I am thinking of becoming a gestational surrogate. My husband and I are blessed with two lovely children of our own. I would love to help another family.

dukegirl 5 years

Honestly, I don't know and don't know how to know.

duck duck goose 5 years

looseseal ~Your declaration that the desire to have biological children is a manifestation of vanity is astoundingly stup!d. (In my opinion, of course.)So, other than an essentially flawed premise that discolors all conclusions drawn from it, what you wrote was just fine, I s'pose. ((shrugs))But, again, that's only my opinion.To each their own.

duck duck goose 5 years

looseseal ~ Your declaration that the desire to have biological children is a manifestation of vanity is astoundingly stup!d. (In my opinion, of course.) So, other than an essentially flawed premise that discolors all conclusions drawn from it, what you wrote was just fine, I s'pose. ((shrugs)) But, again, that's only my opinion. To each their own.

michelle c 5 years

At first I thought no way. But if my sister or my best friend asked me to, then I would. But I couldn't do it for money, or for a stranger, I imagine it would be really difficult to hand over a baby and never get to see it again.

Hootie 5 years

Being that my sisters have 7 kids between them, my answer is no. I wouldn't do it for anyone else. Honestly, I don't know if I could do it al all.

looseseal 5 years

I also want to add that in my boob job analogy, at least there's no chance I would be responsible for making a whole new person who have no choice in the matter of whether he/she would be born with genetic problems and/or other assorted surprises that goes with the territory of IVF. So boob job... not as bad as IVF. Just to be clear.

jessie 5 years

the only person i would do it for is my good friend. but unfortunatly i had problems after the birth of my last child and ended up having ablation surgury. so i can't now. if i could find a way for me to still carry a child for her, i would.

looseseal 5 years

Wanting bio children isn't that bad in itself, maybe a tad bit vain, but hey, no biggie, it is a rare person who doesn't have any vanity. When someone is so enamored with their DNA that they pretty much become obsessed with the idea of creating their DNA replicants, to the point of spending boatloads of money, cheating nature and turning a blind eye to all the inherent risks, that's... really something else. I'm kind of disappointed that my boobs aren't that big, but I'm not gonna get a boob job. Not that getting a boob job would make me EVIL or something, it just seems wasteful and unnecessarily risky to me, to go to such extreme lengths to chase after some ideal that doesn't actually exist. Same principle, really. I have heard that adoptions can be difficult and time-consuming - but guess what else is difficult and time-consuming? Parenthood. And I'm sorry, but I'll never understand people wanting to "experience pregnancy". Makes about as much sense to me as someone declaring they want to "experience getting their leg cut off with a bone saw".

looseseal 5 years

Wanting bio children isn't that bad in itself, maybe a tad bit vain, but hey, no biggie, it is a rare person who doesn't have any vanity.When someone is so enamored with their DNA that they pretty much become obsessed with the idea of creating their DNA replicants, to the point of spending boatloads of money, cheating nature and turning a blind eye to all the inherent risks, that's... really something else.I'm kind of disappointed that my boobs aren't that big, but I'm not gonna get a boob job. Not that getting a boob job would make me EVIL or something, it just seems wasteful and unnecessarily risky to me, to go to such extreme lengths to chase after some ideal that doesn't actually exist. Same principle, really.I have heard that adoptions can be difficult and time-consuming - but guess what else is difficult and time-consuming? Parenthood.And I'm sorry, but I'll never understand people wanting to "experience pregnancy". Makes about as much sense to me as someone declaring they want to "experience getting their leg cut off with a bone saw".

millarci 5 years

I would only do it for someone extremely close to me like my sister.

Swen 5 years

I would only ever do it for my sister. I love her so much and would do anything I could to make her happy. If she ever needed this, I would be happy to help her. Otherwise, not a chance, not even for money. As much as I love my friends, it is way too much of a sacrifice to make.

partysugar 5 years

My old boss asked me to do this for her and I told her for no amount of money would I be a surrogate.

SaRaH 22 5 years

i couldnt do it...i cant even foster a kitten without getting overly attached!

SaRaH 22 5 years

i couldnt do it...i cant even foster a kitten without getting overly attached!

arbywhopper 5 years

I lost the ability to have kids when I was 19. I would do it in a heart beat only because I know of so many people that are willing to do it for me whenever I am ready to have my own kids. It is heart breaking for me because I would love to know what it is like to be pregnant, but it would also kill me to not ever have a child of my own.

popgoestheworld 5 years

I don't think that wanting biological children makes you an unethical person who is supporting overpopulation. By that logic, anyone who gets pregnant without first adopting all the world's orphans is doing something bad. Someone who wants biological children but can't have them isn't less ethical than someone who can. In any case, I feel like I would do this for maybe 1 or 2 of my friends, and my sister. But my sister has already had a child so my guess is it won't be necessary.

popgoestheworld 5 years

I don't think that wanting biological children makes you an unethical person who is supporting overpopulation. By that logic, anyone who gets pregnant without first adopting all the world's orphans is doing something bad.Someone who wants biological children but can't have them isn't less ethical than someone who can. In any case, I feel like I would do this for maybe 1 or 2 of my friends, and my sister. But my sister has already had a child so my guess is it won't be necessary.

Lovely_1 5 years

I dunno! That's a toughie! I think I would be okay with it if I had my own kids already and went through the whole pregnency thing.

Lovely_1 5 years

I dunno!That's a toughie!I think I would be okay with it if I had my own kids already and went through the whole pregnency thing.

clareberrys 5 years

looseseal I loved your post and the one above it! and no I could never do this because I agree with that too that there are so many children in the world without loving families why not bring one in and give them one!?

Liss 5 years

I would consider doing it for my sisters after i have had children of my own. It would be very hard to give up the baby but at least i would always be in their life.

bbkf 5 years

I think it's great that other women do this, but I don't ever want to be pregnant!

TH0ROUGHBRED 5 years

if im qoinq to qo through pregnancy for 9 months im sorry it has to be for me, it may sound selfish but they dont have to put on weight and then have to lose it when the baby is born and they dont have to experience changes with their body and emotions, i just couldnt do it

SusanTeufel 5 years

I would, though not just for any person. For a friend or family member.

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