Dear Poll: Do You Like the Word Fiance?

September 5, 2008

People I know are getting engaged left and right, but the word fiance seems to be used less and less. I don't really mind it myself, but it does kind of have a snobby ring to it — the word boyfriend just sounds so much more laid-back! On the other hand, some people use the word with a lot of pride and excitement when referring to their future husband. So how do you all feel about the word fiance? If you're engaged, is that how you refer to your future husband, or do you keep things simple by calling him your boyfriend or significant other?

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calli gurl 4 years 20 weeks

i LOVE that word. its really hot. *faint :O

calli gurl 4 years 20 weeks

i LOVE that word. its really hot. *faint :O

herbiefrog 4 years 35 weeks

"it's like womens' lib never happened... "what happened to equality ?or do you really prefer to be looked after... subservient?cos we'd like to correct that [next time around]

herbiefrog 4 years 35 weeks

"it's like womens' lib never happened... " what happened to equality ? or do you really prefer to be looked after... subservient? cos we'd like to correct that [next time around]

rossinaross 4 years 35 weeks

I like the word fiancee!Is like every little girls dream to get engaged with a handsome man and call him your fiancee.but then again, I'm not engaged, so I might not like it later on hahaa

rossinaross 4 years 35 weeks

I like the word fiancee! Is like every little girls dream to get engaged with a handsome man and call him your fiancee. but then again, I'm not engaged, so I might not like it later on hahaa

melizzle 4 years 36 weeks

I called him "the soon-to-be hubs."

Martini Rossi 4 years 36 weeks

depends on the day. But most of the time i do not like the word.

ohkate 4 years 36 weeks

I said fiance as often as I could manage (; now I say husband as often as I can (; haha

snowbunny11 4 years 36 weeks

kadbunny- it could have something to do with the fact that I wasn't sitting around longing to be married and for him to "pop the question," but rather I proposed. I suppose fiance does have that fairy-tale proposal ring to it...I don't think there is anything wrong with the word, but to me, I'm still technically single, and he's been my boyfriend for five years. I think Marci nailed it with this:"It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where the woman was going around the party they were all at 'Have you seen my fiance? I can't seem to find my fiance. Has anyone seen my fiance?'"Like, it just seems to feed into the monstrous bridezilla culture..I don't think it is offensive though!

snowbunny11 4 years 36 weeks

kadbunny- it could have something to do with the fact that I wasn't sitting around longing to be married and for him to "pop the question," but rather I proposed. I suppose fiance does have that fairy-tale proposal ring to it... I don't think there is anything wrong with the word, but to me, I'm still technically single, and he's been my boyfriend for five years. I think Marci nailed it with this: "It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where the woman was going around the party they were all at 'Have you seen my fiance? I can't seem to find my fiance. Has anyone seen my fiance?'" Like, it just seems to feed into the monstrous bridezilla culture..I don't think it is offensive though!

lms 4 years 36 weeks

I don't see anything wrong with the term either. I think where some people may have a problem is with girls that don't call their significant other by their name to people that they know and always say my boyfriend, fiance or husband. I will say those terms if it is to someone new. Using it with people you know is where it can be construed as bragging, etc.

Frank y Ava 4 years 36 weeks

Ya thanks for letting me know. I had no freaking clue and then I asked my mom and she had no freaking clue. Thanks for enlightening me!!!

KadBunny 4 years 36 weeks

wadewifey-- significant other :) I don't know, I love it. You spend forever longing to be married, and when he finally pops the question you've only got so long to gush about being ALMOST married so why not use the title :D It's official anyways; it's not any more snobby than "boyfriend" or "husband". He just is..

KadBunny 4 years 36 weeks

wadewifey-- significant other :)I don't know, I love it. You spend forever longing to be married, and when he finally pops the question you've only got so long to gush about being ALMOST married so why not use the title :D It's official anyways; it's not any more snobby than "boyfriend" or "husband". He just is..

HeidiMD 4 years 36 weeks

I don't mind using the word "fiance" either, but I really only use it when I talk to people I don't know. If someone asks me what I did over the weekend, I'd probably say, "Oh, my fiance and I did this..." I don't think it's snobby, and it's certainly easier (and less weird) than referring to him "the man I plan to marry."

Frank y Ava 4 years 36 weeks

I feel a little silly asking this but what is SO??

Marci 4 years 36 weeks

It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where the woman was going around the party they were all at 'Have you seen my fiance? I can't seem to find my fiance. Has anyone seen my fiance?' I HAVE a fiance and I have trouble with the word. But it does mean something, as GlowingMoon said. It's deeper than boyfriend, and people treat him differently when he's introduced that way; like he'll be around at the next holiday party or whatever. :D

Marci 4 years 36 weeks

Frank y Ava 4 years 36 weeks

I have no problem with the term fiance. I will use it when I get in engaged. I never thought about it being snobby.

kikidawn 4 years 36 weeks

imLissy, I'm in the same boat. My SO and I have been dating for 6 years. We are in the process of looking at rings and he is going to be buying one soon, but we are not "officially engaged". So I am not really sure how to introduce him. We are more committed than "boyfriend" leads people to believe. And while I call him my SO on here that sounds weird to say in conversation. I'll be glad when we are "officially engaged" so that I can call him my fiance. I'll be happy being able to convey the seriousness of our relationship. (Although I have called him fiance in other places like my webpage b/c it just felt right).

kia 4 years 36 weeks

I thought it was a dumb word before I was engaged.

LoveSarah 4 years 36 weeks

I use both boyfriend and fiance.

sparklestar 4 years 36 weeks

I can't wait to call him this. ;p We already know we're in this for the very long term so it's all just a matter of technicality. He was talking about buying a house together after my MA is finished and I was like "I'm not signing any joint mortgage without a ring on my finger, understand?" I think he understands. :p

californiagirlx7 4 years 36 weeks

I don't think that there is anything wrong with the term "fiance." It shows that you are committed to marrying this person, and that the relationship is serious. If you say "boyfriend" even if you're engaged, it seems like the relationship is casual or that you aren't getting married anytime soon.

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