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Dealing With Your Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend

The Dos and Don'ts of Meeting Your Boyfriend's Ex

We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, HowAboutWe. How should you handle meeting your boyfriend's ex? Here's a starter course.


There comes a time in every woman's life when you know a run-in with your boyfriend’s ex is going to happen. Weddings, college reunions, high school friends' birthday parties: the woman your man once loved is out there, and you’re gonna have to meet her. But this doesn’t have to be the completely dreadful experience you’re imagining! Here are some simple rules to make this run-in as smooth as humanly possible.

Don't ask your boyfriend the details of their breakup right before meeting her. It’s the same reason you should never watch Food, Inc.: ignorance is bliss.

Do mentally prepare. Come up with a few stock questions and then an exit strategy so the conversation can be short, friendly, and short. A lot of famous athletes utilize a technique called visualization — they visualize themselves scoring a touchdown or slamming a dunk. I don’t watch sports, but you get my point. Visualize a nice, calm conversation where you are radiant, confident, and better than her. Not that it’s about being better than her, but . . . we all know it’s kind of about that.

For more advice, head to HowAboutWe: The Dos and Don'ts of Meeting Your Boyfriend's Ex

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