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Group Therapy: Worried About My Friend's Online Relationship

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A lesbian friend of mine met a girl online about 2 weeks ago, and the two of them are both quite taken with each other. I think that maybe something serious could come of it, the only problem for them is distance. My friend wants to plan a trip to head down south to see her new online flame to meet up in person and see if they really are made for each other.

I'm stoked she found someone that she feels this way about, but am a little concerned. My concern is that my friend is 20 and her unofficial online girlfriend is 18. Additionally, they are both currently living at home and come from families who wouldn't approve of the trip. My friend wants to leave in July and is going to have to pay for everything because her girlfriend's parents will not allow her to travel, or allow my friend to stay at their place. So, in addition to the cost of the flight, my friend is also going to have to pay for her own hotel expenses for the entire week.

I want my friend to be happy and I'll even help her plan this trip, but at the same time I'm worried that this might be too serious, too soon. It's a lot of money to spend on someone she just met online and I'm at a loss for what to do. How can I tell her I'm concerned without being the bad guy? I definitely don't want to throw all this negative stuff at her . . . should I just leave it be?

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