DEARSUGAR and Weirded Out Whitnie need your help. She is on the fence about a guy that she has been dating. Most recently, out of the blue he not only asked her for exact change when the bill came after dinner, but he charged her more because her meal cost more. What would you do if you were in her shoes?
I have been on about six dates with a guy who I am feeling just OK about. He is smart, he is sexy, he's fit and he's kind, but I guess he just also seems sort of immature. For one thing, he always talks about how much he hates it when girls get more drunk than him and so they can't be the designated driver after a date.
Most recently, he took me to a restaurant where they specialize in lobster. I was really excited because I had told him that lobster is my favorite meal. When the check came, he told me that I owed him $52.36. I admit that I was a little bit shocked that he asked not only for money, but for exact change.
The bill was actually $85 including tip, but he told me that since I ordered the lobster (he got a steak by the way), that I owed more money. On each one of our other dates, I've always graciously offered to split the bill, but he insisted on paying.
Is it me, or would this confuse anyone? I have to say he made himself look like a cheapskate and I think this may have been a deal breaker for me. Should I talk to him about this? Would you go out with him again? What do you think? Weirded Out Whitnie